I see friendship as a gift, I do envy anyone who can keep a real friend because friends make life beautiful, I don’t think anyone can deny how much a good friend can change your mood or even your whole day, sometimes you just need that one person who makes you laugh when everything feels wrong, friendship has always meant a lot to me because I know how it feels to have good friends and also how it feels when you have none.
I have had different types of friends in my life, Some came and stayed while some left before I even noticed, i remember back in school when I had a close circle, we did almost everything together, we ate together, walked to class, talked about random things and laughed over small jokes, those moments were so full of life, i used to look forward to school mostly because i wanted to see my friends, they made even a boring day feel lively.
Having good friends makes you feel safe, you can talk to them about your worries, share secrets and just be yourself without pretending, i once had a friend who was always there when I needed someone to talk to, she would listen even when I didn’t make sense and somehow her presence alone made me feel lighter, It’s hard to explain how comforting it is to know that someone truly cares about you.
But on the other hand friendship is not always easy, I have also been hurt by people I called friends as well, some of them changed along the way, others simply disappeared when life got serious, at first it used to hurt me so much, i would keep asking myself what went wrong, Did I do something to push them away? but I later realized that not every friend is meant to stay, some people come into our lives for a short time just to teach us something or make us stronger.
There was a time I had no close friend at all, that period was quiet and lonely, I missed having someone to gist with someone I could call when I felt sad, I remember spending evenings just thinking about how things used to be even when surrounded by people I still felt alone inside, that kind of loneliness can be heavy especially when you are used to having people around you, life without true friends feels empty in a way, it is not that you can’t survive alone but it is just not the same.
Being alone taught me some lessons too, i learned how to enjoy my own company, I started doing things I liked, listening to music, writing, and watching movies alone, I learned that I could make myself happy without always depending on others, It wasn’t easy at first but it made me stronger, when new friends came into my life later I could tell the difference between real and fake ones, I had grown enough to know who truly cared and who didn’t.
I believe friendship is a gift, It’s not something you should take for granted, a true friend will stick with you even when things are hard, they don’t always need to do much sometimes just checking on you means a lot but I’ve also learned that you shouldn’t lose yourself trying to keep friends, It’s okay to love people deeply, but it’s also okay to let go when they no longer bring peace.
This is my response to this episode of Hivelearners community prompt of #hl-w187e01 which the topic is tagged FRIENDS
