The human being or the human system isn't a so perfect one as there will be times, moments, situations or circumstances when we feel hurt whether intentional or non-intentionally by either close or distant person. I think one of the best education about life one can ever have is to know and accept the reality that hurts will definitely come and hence, the need to be well prepared ahead to receive such. The most painful hurt one can have do come from one's neighbor especially the immediate ones.
I believe that no matter the level of hurt or pain one has, it is not worthy of transferance to another person. As long as the hurted person seeks healing and restoration from such trauma, that marks the end of such negativity. There is no past truma worthy of been inflicted on another person just because the hurted refused to let it go. I believe two wrongs can never make a right and also, one of the greatest affliction one can ever have comes from unforgiveness. Holding tight and not letting go of past trumas, hurts, grieves makes for stagnancy or retrogression while forgiveness and letting go nomatter how painful it may be makes for healing, health and peace, hereby breaking the negative flows.
I have heared of a story about a young girl who was molested by her father at a very tender age. She carried the grief and hurt for years which made her to concluded negatively about the male gender and marriage. She is getting of old but not yet married until the day she bitterly let go and forgave her father genuinely. On the other hand, some couples have had their own share of pain transfer from their partner who still hold on to the past trauma. Therefore, i believe that instead of transferring negatives and traumas to others, one can embrace love and choose to go the way of forgiveness and letting go of the pain.
Therefore, i believe that if anyone transfered hurt/pain to another as a result of past trauma, they should be held accountable for it or else, evil will thrive in no time as people will chose the path of revenge rather than the part of forgiveness and peace. Any and everybody in such situation can be healed and restored through love, godly counsels, encouragement and even for some, it may require seeking a counselor, therapist or someone to be accountable for or even leaving that location or vicinity. We can all chose to love, forgive, let go and live in peace which is rather better than to go the path of revenge, unforgiveness and breeding any evil.
Life is about choices in which the way we respond and handle pain goes along way. We can chose to forgive and let go rather than holding tight to the hurt and extending evil. Thanks so much for reading even as comments and contributions are welcomed.
This is my entry to @Hivelearners weekly featured contents, week 185 episode 01 on "CIRCLE OF PAIN" 