The topic for consideration in this edition is quite an argumentative one that has been for a number of years now. In fact I grew up to meet some of these controversial things. Forgive and forget hmmm very two important words that I would try my best to explain and share some instances that could be of importance.
The two words are viable material for deliverance, healing of all sorts which helps an individual to grow and move forward with life pursuit. I would like to define each of the words and perhaps consider the benefits of the two of them. The two words are inter-related and inter-connected that has made a reasonable impact in both the emotions and intellectual well being of an individual.
Forgive or forgiveness entails the ability to let go. It means to release negative hurts, emotions,past or any offense. It also means not to remember any negative act displayed. Forgiveness includes pardoning an individual over an offense or action. Pressing forward without any resentment. Some of the benefits of forgiveness are;
It destroys every circle of hurt, anger etc. It clears hurt and makes one have peace either in full or relatively.
Forgiveness helps one to better or improve relationships. It's a medium for reconciliation which helps to build up relationships, fix the broken ones, connect and make other ones viable.
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While forgetting on the other hand entails letting go of the past memories and experiences that might have caused pain, agony or any sort of ugly action. Forgetting can be quite challenging but yet it can be practiced. It could be a complex thing and sometimes a gradual process that occurs at a specific period of time.
Forgetting entails letting go of emotions and any iota of attachment getting it erased though it might not be easy at the initial but it worth it. The scar will always remain it takes God to soften things.
These two words are what most of us are battling with today. As a father, I had to deliberately change the narrative in the lives of my children. They might not have a strong grip of what I am trying to do however is good to take advantage of their formative stage so that good deposits could be made in their lives. The question is how do put children on the pedestrian of forgiveness and forgetfulness? It must start somewhere. Teach them how to say sorry whenever they did something wrong and let them acknowledge the fact that they made mistake or did the wrong so that they apologize. By such doing, it would mould them towards living a life of forgiveness. I know most children is very simple and easy for them to forgive and many times to forget what another child did.
Forgive and forget is not an easy mission that can be achieved but requires patience, openness, brokenness. Many today forgive but very hard to forget because the scar remains indelible either on their body or heart.
From my religion perspective, the Bible encourages us to be steadfast and forgive one another. Even the prayers that the Bible teaches every believer to forgive because this is a godly virtue that everyone should put on.
If you don't let go the hurt or pass you can't move on because it would keep hunting you. You can forge ahead if you don't forgive. Put on the clothes of forgiveness all the time.
Thanks for reading my entry for this edition.