A few days ago, I was watching an interview pastor Femi Lazarus had with a lady who had just been freed from an abusive relationship. One thing you should understand is that she wasn't forced to stay in it; she stayed because of certain reasons, which I will be explaining to you today. Those reasons are the answers to the question asked by the Hivelearners community.
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In my opinion, there are several reasons why individuals may remain in toxic relationships or friendships. One possibility is that they may fear being alone or feel like they have invested too much time and effort into the relationship to walk away. Some ladies are in an abusive relationship because the relationship has been going on for years and people already know her for that certain guy, and the same goes for the guy too. Many people feel that if they walk out of that friendship or relationship, they would be alone or they would meet worst out there, but the truth is that, where there is darkness, there is a light.
Some individuals may struggle with low self-esteem or have been manipulated into believing they deserve the mistreatment they are receiving. We can find friendships like this in schools, amongst students.
The lady who was interviewed said she was so much into that guy because she believed she would never find a better guy. Another reason was because the guy was the one sponsoring her during her school.
This is where some people get it wrong—the fear of losing out. Some individuals have registered it in their hearts: "If I leave this person, I wouldn't be able to get help from any other place." The thought of this has kept them entrapped in that relationship or friendship even when they are being abused.
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Another thing this beautiful lady said was that she had no one at home looking for her—that is, no family member who cared for her well-being. Did she have a family? The answer is yes! Family dynamics can also play a significant role in why some individuals choose to stay in toxic environments. The pressure to maintain familial relationships, even if they are harmful, can be incredibly strong. In some cases, individuals may feel a sense of duty or obligation to their family members, even if those relationships are toxic.
So here is what can be done to reduce the rate of individuals staying in toxic relationships.
Education and awareness are key. By providing resources and information on healthy relationships, individuals may be better equipped to recognize and address toxic behaviors. Speaking up too, if you notice a friend who is in a toxic or abusive relationship, help them speak up or speak up for them.
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Showing people what love really means—all this can be done when educating them on how to stay away from a toxic relationship.
Thanks for reading. Before the gist comes to an end, wouldn't it be nice to know the person whose blog you just read? Ok, my name is FashTioluwa. Hive's favorite alien from Mars. A friendly advice: date people from Mars; we don't do toxic relationships.
Thanks for reading.