The word friend means a big deal to me, I am so selective with who I associate with. Because of my being mindful of who I call friend I have a Very small circle of people around me.
I have qualities I look out for in a friend and so I don't pick just anyone, we can actually be acquintace and that would be it. And I don't discuss my personal matters with my acquintace.
My best friends as always been my mum and my siblings, because they understand me better and we can relate well, I feel so comfortable with and around them. But things changed when I met "fortress".
Yea! That's her name"fortress" the Very first day we met was in program where we both volunteered to be in the cleaning department.
I'm proudly using this picture of her here because this day means a lot to me and she shared in it. She is the big sister I wished for.
At first when we both acted like normal people with the "hello and hi" kinda greetings. After a while we just find ourselves talking and laughing .
During our conversation I noticed how matured her was in the conversation, her level of reasoning was totally different from that of others I use to know, her sense of humour was a total another beautiful thing attracted me.
She know how to relate to jokes and laugh at one.
After the program we exchanged contact and that was how our relationship started. We kept checking on each other distance was not a barrier to our relationship.
One amazing thing about our relationship is that no matter how long it takes for us to see, we blend and catch up on old time and gist real quick.
We both fuel the relationship it was not one sided nothing like "you didn't call me" who ever called last wasn't a big deal.
Being friends with her is a blessing, she acted like my big sister. When I was in a relationship I told her about it and she was happy for me, when I told her my guy pop the question and I said yes the first question she asked me was " Are you really happy with your choice? Although it felt weird but men!! that was a good question.
She wanted me to be happy.
Being friends with her has help me a whole lot, I know better how to handle and make people feel more welcome. Before now I don't like to share friends, I like my friends to be only mine and mine alone but with her I learnt to share my friends introduce my friends to my other friends and let them bond it help grow the circle.
She taught me how to accept people and make them feel comfortable around me.
I know we all have flaws but she is so sweet that you will forget she has one (not exaggerating)she is lovable, motherly, selfless,God fearing and so hardworking.
During my wedding preparations she arrived Lagos to Abuja four days before my wedding.
She organized my bridal shower without my knowledge, the cake, the deco and even the meal I knew nothing about it was a suprise.
She was my maid of honour on my big day.
Little note to my dear friend
I know this part was not required but yeah, I'm fixing it here.
My dear fortress,
Thanks for being a friend and a sister, thanks for being yourself and being real.
I pray God answers all your secret prayers, may You also be celebrated and be treated with royalty just the way you treat others.
Thanks for being my fortress🥰🥰.
Conclusion
Relationship is a two way things and it takes the two to bond,it should never be one-sided or even bought it should be something from the heart. Don't force it just let it grow, like plant that needs water, sun and good soil to grow relationship needs love, attention and good communication to flourish. Don't be scared to move out of your comfort zone sometimes it help.
