Normally, when a relationship is healthy with little to no problems or completely devoid of drama, no normal individual will want for it to end. However, there are situations that one comes to the honest conclusion that ending a relationship is better than continuing in it. At this point, it becomes very important to decide how best to call of the relationship.
There are various ways to do this of which "ghosting" is one of them. In ghosting, just like the name sounds, you become a ghost, being there but not being there. Some use a gradual method for this while some others decide to cut off abruptly.
I have had various situations where I opted for ghosting as a way of ending a relationship. This is both in friendships, relationships and even family (extended).
One thing all of them had in common was dealing with "unreliable" friends.
You know how you want to depend on a friend and call them when you are in need after all, "a friend in need is a friend indeed". But then, for no good reason these friends let you down and in a way that it is very obvious that they did not even try to help you.
This is a painful type of betrayal.
One time, I was in need and rushed to a friends door and knocked severally while shouting his name, he refused to open the door. In fact he kept quiet as if he was not around, but when I peeped and saw him through the key hole, I knew there and then that there was no reason to continue such a friendship.
A similar scenario has happened with two other people leading to same response from me. I just keep quiet, no calls, no texts, I don't even block them. I just quietly phase out of their life and them out of mine.
It is better to be alone that to be surrounded by the wrong people. That is one big emotional support I give myself anytime I am cutting an unreliable friend off, because the mind will want to play tricks and remind you of some good traits that should make you reconsider your stance and forgive such individual, but not me. Except the person goes the extra mile to show repentance which in my experience, they don't do it.
I have never ghosted someone and wished it could be reversed, because I always remember what the person did in the first place to warrant such a response from me.
That is why before ghosting, I think about their action very deeply and even given them the benefit of doubt.
Yo, Bye for now, till I pick my pen phone again
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