Pain is not something we can bear when it happens and we have every right to feel bitter. Sometimes, not even others but we don't want to leave those who cause us those pains but to make sure we give them a pay back to taste in what they did to us but unfortunately we may end up hurting ourselves the more. Most especially when the law of karma fails to do it's work.
When my workshop got burnt right before my eyes, it felt like the whole world was against me at that moment and I could not resist the pain that came with it. I cried and shouted till my voice left me and seeing my machines after the fire was put off and everything becoming stiff, all my customers clothes of high prices and low prices in ashes, opened roof due to the fire brought my spirit of getting back to my feet to zero.
I had the idea of the cause afterwards that it was a silly mistake from one of my apprentice but instead of passing on the pain to them because they are the cause of the terrible experience, we worked together to gather the remnants and I started to think of a way forward.
Probably because I wasn't treating them harsh because of the incident, God made a way of renovating my shop to better than before and my machines coming back to life with new one joining.
Passing our pain to others is a great mistake anyone can think of doing because it doesn't provide solution but add to the pain because we would always still make references back to how we were hurt too which will keep our wounds open and fresh without healing and at the end of everything we will realize that we only kept on destroying ourselves.
We may think it is a way of taking our revenge but indirectly, we are dipping ourselves more in the pool of bitterness and destruction.
I saw a movie sometime ago, where the mother never treats the daughter right. She was always treating her bad like she was not her real or biological mother and all attempts by the child to get her mother's love and attention turned out to be nothing.
The only place she got attention and care was from her stepfather. When the mother fails to giver her what she needs materially or emotionally, stepfather was always there to give it to her in excess without hiding it from the mother and the mother still complains of spoiling her.
Unknowingly to the mother that her husband always sleeps with her daughter whenever she is not around. Aside that, he took her into his dirty business of drug dealings and in the long run the girl got so addicted to the point of running mad and also got apprehended by the police. All secrets got out during investigation and that was when the mother realized the harm she had done to herself and her child.
The thrilling part was the cause of her mistreating the child was due to the fact the her biological father which was her ex-husband inflicted pain on her and made her suffer till she decided to leave him so seeing the child's face always make her remember the father and the sufferings she went through in his hands. She regretted it so badly but it was too late for her to make amends.
In conclusion, Holding onto our pain will not allow us to see the good that awaits us or the good people that are next to appear in our lives. Living on our pain will only blindfold us from seeing that and as soon as we decide to pass on the pain to others then we have the blame on ourselves and no longer those who caused us pain before.
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