Hello hive learners, how are you doing? This topic is very interesting and I really love it. I am going to read some of the articles about this topic because it will help me.
I am going to share my experience about this topic: I had a lady who I dated for a long time. It was a long-distance relationship; it was hard to see each other because I was busy with my work and my life.
Though, we knew each other when we were living in the same area before I left the location for another state.
I only called her whenever I felt like calling her; I was not really serious with the relationship. But one thing is that I loved her.
After I realized that I don't call her the way it supposed to be, I started calling her every day; that was about 3 months to visit her.
She was thinking that it was because I wanted to visit her that made me call her frequently.
The first day I saw, she welcomed me; I was about to introduce her to my parents, and she told me she’s no longer interested because I am not mature in dealing with women.
WHAT HAPPENED LATER?
I kept going to her house even when she rejected me so hard, trying to avoid me and detested me. I never gave up going to her house, even though she was not at home, I always visited her and made sure to send her sister’s messages.
I never looked at her reactions because I knew what I did was worse than what she was doing to me. I was concentrating on how to win her back; trying my best to win her.
I never allowed my parents and her parents to realize what was going on. We pretended as if everything was fine in the presence of our parents. When we are not with our parents, she would tell me that this relationship cannot work. I kept on begging her because I knew that my behavior was not good at all.
WHAT HAPPENED AFTER I DEPARTED FROM HER?
I spent more than a month with her, and I departed. A week after my departure, she told me that she is no longer interested in me again. She blocked all my access; I could not call, and send her messages through WhatsApp.
I was emotionally traumatized for a few days, I had a friend, she was beautiful and good. I kept her by my side to ease me from my emotional trauma.
She asked, “what is happening to me?” I did not tell her because I didn't want her to know what was happening to me. The reason I didn't want her to know was because she was really interested in me; if she knew, she may take the chance.
The first day I told her that I have a lady I really loved but it is a long-distance relationship. She was the first person that discouraged me from a long distance-relationship.
I started using the phone number of my friends to call her since she blocked my numbers. I kept on calling her with different numbers and sending her messages from my phone because she did not block my numbers from receiving direct SMS: I never stopped calling her, pleading with her for my inconsistency and immature character.
My friends also called her to talk to her, and she embraced me for my courage to not change my words. I did that for three months.
She said, “Chris I thought that when I said that I am no longer interested, I would just turn back and continue your life. I thought you didn’t love me anymore. I think you have seen someone who is prettier and more beautiful than me. I thought you were no longer interested in me. I really love you and want to be with you. I will visit in December.
WHAT MADE ME NOT GIVE UP ON HER?
There was a day we were in the social gathering; it was around 10:00 pm. I was really shivering that very day and went to a corner of the building. When she saw me, she brought her blanket she was supposed to use to cover herself to cover me. I knew that she was really catching a cold also that night, but used her blanket to cover me.
We attended the same church, there was a day we had night vigil in the church. I slept on a bench and when she saw me, she covered me with a blanket she brought from home to cover herself.
Though I never knew how love was, I never experienced love. During those times, she always liked to talk to me but I was shy, meek, and calm.
When I realized how she loved me before I expressed my feelings for her, I may not get someone who will love me like her again. She was ready to give me anything if she had it.
Her love was unconditional to me, when I knew that, I refused to let her go.
I won her back with seriousness, and she knew that I was very serious. To win her heart back wasn’t an easy task for me. I was traumatized for months, yet I was calling her, accepting that I was the one that coursed everything which was indeed true.
I corrected all my mistakes and I called her everyday as my responsibility.