Listening is a skill that not everyone possess. Truth be told, it is disheartening to come to understand that someone who we thought was actually listening did not get even one line from all that you were saying.
Personally, it puts me off and makes me to just look up in my own self. Many kids grow with this inability to express themselves because when they have something to tell their parents or anyone close by they are asked to keep quiet as it is perceived that they talk too much or they don't know what they are saying. Critically, my two older kids are in a very sensitive stage at the moment. Anything that happens at home will just have to go outside especially the oldest one. If you hear him vibrate, you just conclude that someone sent him to just talk. It is well known that kids have lots of foolishness, so what we do is to regulate him. There was this day this boy went and started communicating our prayer points to people outside. I means, he was that detailed...I was just calm as I didn't know what to tell him because he was outside and I was inside, shortly he came in and I asked him who asked him to say all that he was saying? He went out and increased the volume. I felt bad but didn't say a word to him when I came out. When the day returned I told him. We encouraged him that not everything he hears at home he should communicate outside, he should learn to keep things to himself.
Now, a lot of people are pulled into depression because they lack this place of having someone they relate things to so they keep bottling up and it comes to a time that they can't hold it anymore and it becomes an issue.
I have one or two persons who listens to me when I have something to say. When I get so upset with things and do not wish to take nasty steps I get to talk to my husband . He seats to collect the bullets then we look for solutions around it. There are other times when I tells him something and will feel that he still remembers and he will say he has forgotten. That aspect hurts so much. This happens especially when he is tired and needed some rest and I need someone to relate with.
Communication is the life wire of everyone and when it goes well things looks good and when it doesn't flow well things gets bad and unbearable. What makes it difficult for people to listen is because we always want to be in the talking place forgetting that listening is a skill. This is should be developed by all and if done lots of issues that people have will be reduced, we should not always be in a haste to speak. Because what people needs are time is someone who can listen to them indepth and help them out of a challenging moment
This is my entry to this week's first edition prompt. Thank you for stopping by. Compliments of the season.