Don't help anyone if they don't ask for it.

The five fingers of the hands are not equal. Like that all humans are not equal and that means variation is a very natural thing for humans. Some of the humans are good and the remaining others are considered bad ones. We all wish to stay surrounded by good people and try to avoid the bad ones but unfortunately, it's impossible. It's because everything in this nature comes in pairs. One of the best examples is the darkness and light. The absence of darkness is called light. Again the absence of light is called darkness. It means both darkness and light coexist at the same time. Like that good and bad coexist at the same time and it's impossible to only find one. So both good and bad people stay around us.

*made by me using canva*

Kindness is called the great virtues and helping is a form of kindness. Most of the time we help others for the sake of humanity. But as I said every person is not good and instead of helping some people they remain ungrateful. Sometimes they don't hesitate to betray for their own benefit. For that kind of nature, many people feel afraid before helping others. I also have several incidents and for this reason in the current time, I think a hundred times before helping others.

It's true that I have several incidents but I feel I have shared most of them. So today I am sharing the last incident which happened approximately 3/4 years ago and I am sure I didn't share it earlier here. I am saying that the ending will shock you. You will think 100 times also before helping after hearing about the incident.

That day me and my friend went to the bank of a river. Both friends met with each other approximately 4 months later as well as I can remember. Both of us were enjoying the time and discussing our careers and thinking about what to do next. And everything we are discussing while walking. Approximately 32-40 minutes before the sunset both of us came to the bridge of the river and our intention was to enjoy the sunset and the view of sunset can be seen very well from the middle of the bridge. As planned both of us went to the middle of the bridge and waited for the sunset.

The place remains crowded most of the time because many people enjoy the sunset there. Reaching there we noticed one boyfriend and girlfriend were quarreling with each other. We didn't care about it too much but they were making so much noise that it was hard to ignore. Within a little time, the boy slapped on her girlfriend's face. Till that time we are observing it but ignoring it because it's their personal matter and we should not interfere there. I thought with that slap everything would end unfortunately it didn't happen. The boy continuously slapping on his girlfriend's face. I have never seen such kind of humiliating scene in front of my eyes. So I wasn't able to resist myself and I interfered in there and started to ask what's the reason and the girl was crying and didn't say anything. The boy started to threaten me when I stopped him. People gathered immediately after taking my action. I knew that I was not doing anything wrong and I was fearless. People started to ask what happened. But when the girl said I was interfering between her and her boyfriend's matter and I became the culprit in the eyes of others. I was totally shocked to hear the words of the girl. I was trying to protect her and she exposed me as a culprit. I don't know why she has done such a kind of thing. It was one of the most humiliating moments for me.

I was expecting the worst situation but my friend handled the situation very well and protected me from it. He was very brave and he knew how to tackle such kind of situation. I was lucky enough in that day.

It was the day I promised myself not to help others on my own. I should only help them if they ask for help. I can think like a robot and I can take my decisions seriously and from that time I never helped others if they didn't ask for help. Even if anyone needs help badly I just stay quiet and watch it but I don't help them until they speak for it. I know it's a little bit rude but sometimes being rude is the best for us.