Marriage/wedding should not be a business deal

Marriage is called the bond or union between two souls. It's one of the purest bonds as well as I know. In our country marriage is very important for various purposes where in some countries it is just an official announcement or a formality. According to my society, a man should be self-dependent before getting married. The man can do a job or business whatever is suitable for him. The marriage occurs in our country in the traditional way and it's a matter of huge cost. Because of that reason before marriage men want to reach in a position where money isn't a problem. Still, now I am 25 and I am unmarried. So I have a plan and I am expecting something in my marriage. So let's start sharing about it.

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At first, talk about finance. Many people think that before marriage they need a lot of money and after that, one should go for marriage otherwise what one gives to his wife to eat. To be honest I don't believe in this kind of thing. I will get married at that time when It will be my time. I don't need a huge amount of money for it. I just need that amount of money through which we can spend our life. In the case of what I will give my wife to eat it's very natural. What I will eat, I will give it to her. I will marry with a human, not a demon 😅 for what I need a mountain of money. To become rich and get married after it is not my plan because I don't want to lose my youth time for running after money when I can spend quality time with my wife and enjoy. Money will come to me if I have proper planning to earn it. Besides, after marriage, I believe my wife will give me motivation to do better. I don't think taking responsibility of a human is too difficult. Besides, I believe in equality and if my wife wants to do a job then she will be allowed to do that. I don't have any intention to take money from her but I want my wife as a self-dependent person. If possible I will help her to start a business and I will be an investor of the business 🙂.

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Dowry is very popular in our country and very few marriages occur without dowry. In my life, I have seen three marriages without dowry. It's not legal, from the point of view of the government or from the point of view of religion. But still, it's happening and I have not seen any protests against it. Some men don't support it but they take dowry for the pressure of their parents. But still, I blame those men for their incapable of convincing their parents. I feel that dowry is one kind of business in our current society. I don't support it and it creates huge financial pressure from the lady's side. I am giving training little by little to my parents by saying that I won't be allowed to take dowry in my marriage. I know I can't change everyone's mind but through my marriage, I will give the message to others not to take dowry and my future generation will be automatically inspired by it because I will teach them the important lesson of it. Not taking dowry is not the only thing for me. In fact, I will need to defend my wife from what neighbors and relatives say about dowry.

At my wedding, I will try to insist others not to bring any gifts. It's Indeed a difficult one but not impossible. I have seen that thing in a marriage. I am inspired by the idea very much. So that people can come to my wedding in bare hands without any hesitation. I know many people don't come to the wedding because for them, arranging the money for gifts isn't easy. I want their blessings at my wedding too.

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In recent times groom usually uses a car to go and return from the wedding club. But I have the desire to use a horse vehicle to go to the wedding club and return with my wife. I like uniqueness and maybe it's the reason I want it and there exists a huge possibility that I will do it at my wedding. I will do marriage once if everything remains okay. So I should try my best to make my marriage day memorable.

I have another thing as a desire in my wedding but not sure if I will do it or not. I will try to use the signal resistance of the network. Then people will fully concentrate on the bride and groom. Besides they will try to enjoy the moments.

I don't want to make my wedding into a business which is happening everywhere around me and I am sure because of no dowry and no gift my wedding will be unique and it will be a message for others also.
I know whatever I am going to do at my wedding is not going to be an easy one because it's not going to be a normal one like others and some difficulties will come naturally. I will overcome the traditional system but before that, I will try to make a handsome amount of money and a respectable position in society which will help me overcome many difficulties.