Society can't set my standards

Humans are social beings, and they cannot live alone. It doesn't matter how hard they try; they will end up living in a family and in a society. Every family and society has their own rules, and the people of the society and family need to follow them. Most of the people are being judged by the society as well as by the people of the society. The standard, capacity, and level of a person are mostly determined by the society. Many times the decision of a person is judged by society if it is right or wrong. A question comes to my mind: is it okay to accept the thing that society thinks is right and avoid it if society thinks it is wrong? Let me share some examples from my experiences.

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I visited my village last year during the time of vacation. An incident took place exactly in time. One of the girls of my village, particularly my neighbor, was in love, and she wanted to get married to the person she had chosen. I think it was very natural, but in the village, it was like a crime. Her family locked her in a room and tried to arrange a wedding with a person her family chose for her. They were doing it before the news about her boyfriend spread out. Her family thinks that if the news spreads, it would be a humiliating to the family. The reason is very simple: because having a boyfriend for a girl means the girl is not a good girl. Although there are some reasons for thinking like that, which is reasonable, we can't charge everyone the same. Each person is different. It was about the life of the girl, and the girl should have the final say about it. Unfortunately, because of society's standards, there is no such thing. I found it totally ridiculous. At the end, the girl runs away with his lover without thinking about her family's reputation. It was the humiliation for her family, but I think she has done the right thing because her family forced her to take such a step. Her family was gambling with her life and didn't listen to her. So I see there was nothing wrong from her side. Whom to blame? I think of the society system and her family. Society is because of having such a kind of mentality of people, and her family is because they didn't try to understand her. It's time to come out of that kind of mentality. Suppose if in my family my sister loves someone, I will be ready to support her and protect her even if I need to go against my family also because I never allow the society to decide the future of my sister. It's not logical in my eyes.

Let's talk about me. I have a good academic career, and most of the people think that I will get a good job with a handsome salary, and I believe I can do that also, but they are not the judge of my life, and I am here to decide if I will do any job or not. Now whenever I go anywhere, many people suggest things to me and try to show me what is ideal. I considered their suggestions, but when I shared with them about the profession related to online earning, they denied the idea instantly. They think it's a waste of time. They even suggest I stop thinking about such a thing. Should I stop? I am very clear about it, and I am not going to stop here. They don't support my idea because they have no knowledge about it, and their limitation of knowledge doesn't mean I have the same limitation. They couldn't do it, but that does not mean I can't. I can do it, and I am better than them, and I will prove it to them in the future. They are no one to judge me now or my life decisions.

In my case I have no issues with society standards and how it runs, but society rules and standards need to be updated, and they need to be flexible. It is not ideal to stick to the traditional way. If society supports me, then it's well; if it does not, I will create my own path, and I can go forward even without this support of society because I think I am capable enough to do so, and nobody can restrict me.