Everyone wants to lead a fulfilled life filled with opportunities and sometimes we often hold the assumption that where we aren't is always better than where we are not. Everyone is guilty of this because we're fond of always underestimating our positions in life because we feel that doing otherwise will only create complacency in us, aside from this, we're always living in the illusion that the grass is always green on the other side, especially if we've been struggling too hard to get there and it's been difficult.
The truth is that we always feel that leaving the position we are in is the definition of constantly moving forward, but this isn't true, life has a way of creating meaning, impacting us with different meanings and sometimes we choose to understand it differently, this is how the impression of progress is often made.
The Aspect Of Insatiabilty
It's a good and bad thing that we're generally insatiable. Insatiability brings curiosity and the needed strength to continue hustling. This is to say that we're easily convinced by the impressions of others.
For example, social media is a glorified, aggrandized and perfect state of human existence
Why?
This is because it's more like the dream we mostly crave, so rather than living in the illusion of that life, why not create it? Everyone has an illusion, a life of comfort which they yearn and sometimes we feel that living a concocted version of it online might signal progress and not reek of all our failures in reality.
Money Avenues
For example, flaunting money online might get you a big social media following, and create avenues that you'd naturally never get in real life because people are taking the "fake it till you make it" thing to a whole new level every day. This is where startup companies keep up a wealthy appearance to convince big investors to invest with them. This is where people create a different impression of who they are to convince people that they're what they're not.
I mean, being impressionistic can create opportunity, and sometimes it can bring disappointments. For example, a lot of people are self-acclaimed CEOs online with realistic businesses that they're managing.
Following The Portfolio Rather Than Reality
Here's an example......
When you go to LinkedIn, you'll see people with massive portfolios, and it sort of intimidates people who are looking to sell skill and make money. These people with massive portfolios are only looking to create more opportunities for themselves.
When it comes to seeking jobs online or getting the right person for a job, portfolios are what we mostly check to see if they meet the requirements, but the truth is, portfolios don't do the job, sometimes people make themselves overqualified for a job, by tweaking their portfolios to beat the competition and create an instant impression.
We're quick to forget that reality is a different ball game, it seems like a lot more people are succeeding online and sometimes we're wondering why we're failing in real life.
It often feels scary when our lives look incomplete and some people seem to be living the perfect life, earning six figures, getting good health care, waking up to fat bank accounts, and leading good dreams. The downside to this is that since this can overly motivate us, it might make us sacrifice everything we've worked hard for, to acquire that life that's being flaunted out there.
The internet makes real life heavily over-packaged and this has numerous advantages, but a lot of people do this to create awareness, beat the competition, create validation and leave people with a seeking or curious mind.
The Green Or Malnourished Grass?
The grass might be greener on the other side, this is because there's the possibility that it is, but there's no certainty that it is. I feel that since there's an iota of uncertainty to the grass on the other side, would it then be worth giving up all the grass we have?
Call me old-fashioned but I still think, it gets to a point in time where we should be wary of impressions created by others. Many narratives are trying to unseat us from the positions we've worked hard to reach in life, this is because of sophistication, the aim to seek betterment, and the rush to be up and doing in every aspect of life.
There's nothing hard in being moved by the narratives that are being sold out there, there's no narrative without disadvantages, sometimes we're mostly moved by the illusion of attaining perfection, especially in the aspect of money, this is why it's easy to scam people. At the end of the day, speed and shortcuts bring side effects as might never be prepared for, and hampers our progress to some extent.
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