Hey Everyone!!
The relationship between parents and children is built on love, care, and trust. But when it comes to sharing everything, it’s not always black and white. While it’s beautiful to be open with parents, the reality is that there are times when telling them every single detail isn’t easy—or even possible.
As we grow up, our world starts to look different from our parents’ world. Their experiences have shaped them into people who prioritize safety, stability, and protection. For them, every decision we take passes through a filter of concern. On the other hand, young minds are driven by curiosity, passion, and a desire to take risks. They want to explore life in their own way, make mistakes, and learn from them. This difference in perspective often creates a gap.
Sometimes, a child may want to try something new—travel alone, join an unconventional career, take part in a competition far from home, or even just spend time with friends late into the evening. To the parents, these actions may seem unsafe or unnecessary. Their natural instinct is to say “no,” not because they don't trust their child, but because they fear what could go wrong. That fear can become a barrier to communication.
In such situations, the child is left with two options—either obey and give up their desire, or take the risk and possibly hide it. It’s not that the child wants to lie or be dishonest. But they fear that no matter how much they explain, their parents won’t understand. This results in a difficult choice—protect their dream or protect their parents’ peace of mind.
There’s also the emotional weight of it all. Children don’t want to disappoint their parents. They know that their decisions will impact the trust their parents have in them. But at the same time, they also feel the need to live life on their own terms. It’s a constant inner battle between responsibility and freedom, honesty and individuality.
The truth is, not every situation is suitable for full disclosure. Sometimes, the timing is wrong. Sometimes, the understanding isn't there yet. And sometimes, the love is so protective that it doesn’t allow space for growth. This doesn’t mean children should make lying a habit. But it does mean that not telling everything isn’t always an act of rebellion. Often, it’s just a way to breathe, explore, and find one’s own path.
Ideally, there should be space where children can express their wishes freely and parents can listen without immediate judgment. Building that kind of understanding takes time and effort from both sides. Until then, the gap may exist—and so may a few unspoken truths.
At the end of the day, love still ties them together. Whether everything is shared or not, that love never fades. The goal is not to hide forever, but to grow into someone strong enough to one day say, “This is who I am,” and be met with acceptance, even if not complete agreement.
