To the best of my knowledge, the world at large frowns at abortion. It is said that abortion is practically taking a life, even though the baby is not yet born, and killing is a bad act. Also, abortion is risky, as it could damage the organs of the females involved. But even at that, abortion is heavily practiced in our world today, and it appears to be the escape route from troubles along the way.
The thing is, abortion is bad, but I think the wrongness attached to it has been chalked off because the way people engage in it these days is so easy-peasy. I have some single mothers I have communicated with regarding how they would tackle pregnancy if it came their way again and they were not sure of marriage with the man involved. They didn’t hesitate to tell me that they would terminate it instantly because once beaten, once shy. In fact, they went ahead to tell me that they had been “flushing out” ever since their first one that held them into motherhood. Although they love their babies, it is not something they wish to go through again, especially with how the man responsible for the pregnancy treated them awfully.
Should fathers have a say when the lady decides to go for abortion?
Yes! The man responsible for the pregnancy has the full right to either authorise abortion or reject it. In a case where the man responsible is not informed before an abortion is carried out, the lady will pay for it by the terms of the man.
I have a friend whose girlfriend—whom he had good intentions for—aborted his pregnancy without telling him. It started off with the lady acting uninterested in the relationship. The guy tried all he could to keep her, but she was already off the relationship. It was after the official breakup that the guy (my friend) found out that the lady had got pregnant and terminated it without telling him. He was so angry and wanted to take her to court. But I had to calm him down. I know he has all the rights and could prosecute the lady if he took the case to court, but sometimes it is good to let a problem continue sleeping.
But there’s another twist to that. If anything had happened to the lady in the process of the abortion, the guy would have been held responsible for allowing her to go for the forbidden abortion.
Like I said, abortion is very risky!
I remember conversing with one lady that I wanted to give a relationship a shot with. She was not well-grounded in the topic of abortion, so when I was slightly educating her, she asked one question that made me conclude she had gone far.
“How many abortions does it take for someone not to be able to give birth again?”
She asked in a very serious and calm way, and I knew she had done a lot already and she was giving me the terms and conditions of no s3x before marriage in the relationship we were trying to build.
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