I personally believe there are some things that if we haven’t gone through them ourselves, we just wouldn’t be able to understand. We might say we do, but we don’t truly understand the feeling or the weight of emotions that come with certain experiences.
So when I saw the prompt, “what would you do when your family holds you back, even out of love? Would you let go of your family or choose your personal growth and dreams?”. I realised I have never found myself in that kind of dilemma, so it seems unfair to say, because it is harder than it sounds.
Certainly, this isn’t a black-or-white matter. I believe my decision would depend on what part of my life I would be letting go of. Where is my family coming from, is from place of love or just self interest? When I compare what I want to what my family wants, how big is the difference? There are just many things to consider.
As far as I am concerned, I don’t think I can let go of my family because of my personal growth or dreams. Respectfully, I understand those who come from unhealthy family and might choose to let go of their family to focus on themselves.
I came from a healthy family, and they don’t force their opinions on me as long as whatever I am doing isn’t harming me or harming others and is morally acceptable. Even when we don’t fully agree in our explanations or understanding, we still tend to come to an agreement.
Say, somehow our opinions don’t match, I still know they always want the best for me. Family is important to me; i don’t think my future myself would be proud of me if I decided to choose myself and interests over my family’s, especially when theirs also come from a good place . I don’t have many friends, and my family is my biggest supporter system.
If my family doesn’t seem to see things my way and I have tried to make them see from my perspective to no avail, I still wouldn’t sever my loyalty to them. Because what if my personal growth doesn’t go as planned, who would I fall back on? But if theirs doesn’t go as planned, I know I can easily fall back on them.
There are only a few things that could make me let my family go. Matters surrounding my faith, if family suddenly chose not to support my faith (which I know is impossible, haha), I would definitely let them go; in fact, I’d cut them off if need be. Also, if what they had in mind for me wasn’t truly good for me or good in general.
Although, I honestly can’t imagine myself in such a situation. And even though Ive written what I choose to do, I still can’t say for sure that this would be my choices if I ever found myself there.. It is easier said than done; like saying, I wouldn’t be angry if you ate my food, only to realise I was actually angry when you did.
In conclusion, my family are my support system and since I know they have good plans for me, even if they didn’t match my perspective, I wouldn’t let them go.
𝙸𝚖𝚊𝚐𝚎𝚜 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝙰𝙸 𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚍. 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚍𝚎𝚎𝚙 𝙰𝙸
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