Talking about the way people behave has always been a topic of debate, some says we learn it via the things we see, some says it's learnt through the kind of people we live with or hang around while some says it's through our various experiences, while some even believed it's being inherited. But then, I would say all of this is true, they all have a part to play.
When a child is born, he/she is a blank page, open to anything it finds. Every word being said to his/her hearing, every action they observe and every experience they go through as well happens to be the ink that write on this blank pages. If you have a child who grows up somewhere where kindness, love, honesty, care are the likes are shown, such a child is more likely to grow up valuing and exhibiting same values. Note, I'm not saying it's the case for every child that grows up in that kind of an environment, no, we have some children who grow up in the best of homes and still end up making wirkf choices and exhibiting certain bad behaviors. Whereas we have kids who grew up with no love, care and all, and still end up being responsible and loving individuals.
About three years ago, I lived closed to a family who had an only son. His parents were very responsible and respected individuals in our community. Even I can say they did their best to train and raise him the right way, they send him to a good school, led him in the way of the Lord, displine him when needed and also loved him. But as time goes on, seems he began to move with the wrong set of people, be started doing drugs and started returning home late into the night. Sometimes, he won't even come home for days. His parents did all they could, but then this guy is already long gone.
Funniest part is, in that same community was this young boy who came from broken home, he grew up amongst parents who fought almost every single day of their life. But I want to believe this boy promised himself to be different, to not be the kind of parents his parents was. Today he happens to be one of the few people who runs a yearly empowerment program for youths in my state.
So, what determines the kind of adult children become is a mix of a whole lot of things, talking of environment, home, genetics, friends and even luck. Even if a child is the calm type, he/she can turn out to be violent if raised in an environment thats chaotic, and a child who's known to be fierce and all can learn to control his anger and become more temperament if raised with love.
Behavior can be learned and influenced at the same time. But the power to choose the kind of person we become is left for us. The people and the environment we grew up with/in May shake us, but we can choose what we turn out to be.
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