Emotion is one thing that can bring the daddy good part of someone or the worst part of it. When you get hurt your emotion is one crucial part of you that is a stake, you can feel miserable thinking oh lord. At that points, you can make some decision that you will replace later on in life. That has been the reason, why I will always tell people never make decision while you are under the influence of emotions, because emotions to be deadly. Can you make up your mind to do something, if you're acting under emotions, there's always an awkward feeling that comes with your action, which is often no strong enough, but you will assume and believe that that decision you are making is the best.
I've seen someone who hurts another person, but when the question is asked, why did you hurt this person, she started telling stories of how she was hurts, she all just needed to hurt someone bad to make sure she was not the only one that felt that way, and at the end, she was able to hurt someone had no idea of the history of the pain and agony is passing through. Why will it always be an Innocent soul that will be hurts and become the victim of bad experiences someone had sometime ago. It was a very terrible incident, all the experiences of life and how hurt she have been, this might be caused by one guy or follow women long time ago as well, and she have been holding this all these while, just to hurt someone else.
For God Sake, other people should know responsibility of your misfortune. I understand how bad is feels when people are hurt, it can be so terrible, so bad that you won't like to experience that, or probably regrets everything that comes with that experience, but why trying to transfer this pain and agony into another person, another generation, when you truly know how it hurts.
Sometime Ago, I was working in the hospital, at the GOPD ( General Out Patient Department) and there, something led to something and I was discussing with one of my clients, and he made a comment, that a woman raped him and that was how he had his first sex, and that he is going to rape back, then I ask you a question for a second, the person here planning to rape back, is it the person that actually raped you? And he said anyone. Then and only then I know I got work to do. I started to counsel him about his Tragedic moments and make sure I changed that perspective he had in his head.
Come to think of it, the young ladies and the young ones are the only people who are stake of this right now, I want innocent soul that don't know the history of this, and com'on he's a man, the trauma in a lady will be more greater than that in a Man. After the first counseling I invited him from other sections and you agree and was able to change that mindset. I mean it was not an easy one to change his mindset and at that situation I was happy I was able to change that.
People we don't know or those we know, should not be the victim of our pains and agony. If you cannot let go of the pain, find a person that hurt you and hurt the person back, then if you cannot hurt the person back, just let it go. Other persons should not be the victim of our bad past experiences.