Honestly, this was once a difficult one for me to crack until I learnt better and I've been finding happiness whenever I wanted. Someone said, "there is no happiness in the world, we just find what makes us happy in it". I didn't quite agree with it as I believe God created the world and said it was good, more than enough reason to say there is happiness in this world.
We just have to find it and be happy in our own style with what God has blessed us with. Well, that's my thinking and it has helped shaped how often and how well I can create my own happiness even when sadness strikes.
There are days and times when all I just wanted to do is stay on my own, away from even my family and just wallow in my thought about whatever may be bothering me at that time, a lot of times, they are sad thoughts. During those times, I've learnt better what I need to do to get over it and be back to myself and happy again.
There are not much things I do to get myself back, I bet I'm one of those out there that can be easily pleased as I hate feeling sad or down. Out of the many things I do to fight for my happiness, here are the most important ones I do especially at the first stage of sadness setting in.
First of all, is that I get aware of my feelings. It's one thing to be feeling down, it's another to be aware of how you're feeling. It takes a few actions from myself or how I react to people around to make me aware that I am feeling sad and need to walk my way out of that feeling.
Another thing I do is, focus on what I can control. In such a time when I feel sad, I would also feel less need to get anything done because I feel I can't do them. At that point, I try to focus on only the things I can do and somehow, I do them and also get other things done.
Spending time doing things that are meaningful to me like earning money, playing or singing songs even though I may start with the sad ones to match with my mood. Sometimes, this phase draws my family close as they are music lovers. We just sing along and somehow I am getting my free and happy self again.
Creating happiness again means taking breaks for me and I may not be very good at doing this but whenever I do it, I always feel much better and ready to face life's happiness again. Simply relaxing and thinking of the things that makes me happy, I could even catch myself smiling and that counts.
The battle for happiness is not an easy one especially when one is faced with a hard truth in life, I've seen worse cases where even the best thing to make one happy refuses to work on the person that was once the most happiest whenever they experience it. Happiness is free but not many have been able to access it's freedom, I found it and I'm grateful for it.
