I've gotten a lot of comment on how I turn out to become even when I had to grow in a home that had a separated parents, I grew up with just my dad and somehow I was expected to turn out as bad as the situation around my parents separation. Well, it's obvious I've proved them wrong as I don't look or act like a child from a broken home, I had the love I needed to grow fine all thanks to my dad.
It's hard to not say one's adulthood is totally dependent on how they were raised by their parents or guardians from childhood. Even though I'm a science student and I've learnt so much about genetics and how they affect man, I am not of the opinion that how a child turn out can be traced to the genes in them. The mind of man is a vast and complicated space that only God himself can understand.
Genes are powerful, they are what makes a child look like their parents or relatives, they decide if the weight, height and stature of the child. While those things might play a role in how a child will turn out in his or her adulthood, I don't believe the gene is to be blamed for their turnouts. I'll say we are only finding ways to blame the gene and not the negligence of parents to play their role in the lives of their children.
It's no news that many parents have failed in their duty towards their children but we also do have parents who try their best to bring up good children who will turn out great in the society. Sadly, the result is never decided by the parents when these children grow older. Choices come in and so many break away from what their parents have taught or instill in them. It's a sad reality.
I know of a boy back in school who literally wanted to try everything and anything with the mindset that he has finally left home and is free to do whatever he liked as the adult he has become. I tried to advise him as he seemed a lot younger than I was then, he didn't listen saying I shouldn't bring the memories of his mother to him. He chose to act wild at school and forms a good son cover when he's back home.
It was clear that his parents were the strict type and wanted what was best for him considering how they checked up on him and made sure he didn't lack while in school but I realized one thing, the parents were doing the wrong things for right purpose. The last time I heard from this boy, he's still wayward with his doings and it's hard to tell his parents ever tried to train him well from home, it's sad.
Another case is my close female friend who had to grow up in a relative's home after her parents died. Maybe we would have the gene to thank for her being so smart because she thought she had to be more intelligent, smarter and better to gain the love of the family raising her. In all that process, she grew herself up into a beautiful lady who knows what she wants and does well in whatever she wanted to do.
While it doesn't totally depend on the parents efforts for a child to turn out well, it is a bigger part of the upbringing and must be taken seriously. Aside gene, environment also play a role in influencing who a child becomes but above all, it is the choices made by the child on who he or she wants to become that speaks more volume in the end.
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