My goal as a mother is to raise emotionally smart, loving, resilient, compassionate, God-fearing, capable, and independent children who will dominate the world and also thrive in the ever-changing world.
By doing this, no matter where they find themselves, they will thrive.
Honestly, I would want to strike a balance between making life easy for my kids and allowing them to face obstacles on their own. I think it's all about balancing things up if you ask Me.
How would they grow and learn if they didn't overcome challenges and obstacles on their own? We learn from our past mistakes, so allowing them to face obstacles will help them to be resilient, solve problems, and be better adults. Just be there to support them emotionally and financially.
I want to raise independent kids; imagine raising a child who always waits for you to say something before they can take a step? Definitely not in my home lol.
I remember my dad used to say this to his friend all the time whenever they were together. He would tell them to allow their kids to suffer a little so that they will have sense hahaha. Funny, isn't it? I know! But allowing your kids to go through certain things in life would make them stronger, that even without you, they can stand on their own and make certain decisions for themselves.
My parents gave me a good life, but they allowed me to experience things on my own, like going to the bank by myself even at a very young age paying my school fees myself even from primary 2 (grade 2, They would put the money in my bag and instruct me on what to do immediately I entered the school compound). They allowed me to take responsibility for myself even at a very young age yet they did the possible best for me.
And now, even without them, I can get things done by myself and I would definitely want my kids to experience life and face challenges so they'll be confident and resilient.
Yes I want my kids to have the best life possible, but I would also want them to experience how it feels to work and earn, and also how it feels to stand in the queue at the bank
I wouldn't say my choice is what's best, but there's a saying that goes, "Experience is the best teacher" Even still, I would want them to face certain challenges on their own. I would be there to support them emotionally.
Allowing them to face obstacles on their own will foster growth; doing this will help them to know their weakness, strength, and also their passion.
Overcoming obstacles in life builds one's confidence 10x so why would I eliminate everything for them? By doing this, I'm preparing them for the real world, and also adulthood which is never easy to navigate. I would do that because they wouldn't stay with me forever. Allowing them to face obstacles will help them grow mentally, and their problem-solving skills will increase.
Everything I'm doing right now is for my future kids, and I know I'll have the means to give them the best life I possibly can, The first step is marrying the right partner