To be honest, a lot of the pressure in my life doesn't come from outsiders, it comes from within myself. Some expectations I have for myself, some plans for the future, and some goals I have set in my mind, these things sometimes create an invisible pressure in my mind.
Like many of us, I also think about the future. Where I want to go, what I want to achieve, how I want to create a stable life, all these things run through my head. Sometimes I even set a deadline in my mind, within this time I have to do this, after that I have to do that. These thoughts encourage me to move forward on one hand, but on the other hand they also create a little more pressure on myself, for example, to fulfill my dreams, it takes money and time, and finding these two is a matter of tension.
Let me give you a big example from my life that helped me understand this. The first job I got in my life was my dream job. Honestly, I considered myself very lucky at that time. Because right after completing my studies, I got a job that I had dreamed of getting for a long time. But the story of life does not always go according to our plans.
Within a few days, the time of Covid or Corona arrived. Because of that situation, my journey to that dream job did not go very far. In a very short time, its path stopped. After that, I worked three more different jobs. Every time I thought to myself that maybe I could somehow get back on the path to that dream job. I did not reduce my efforts but many times in life, everything does not happen just by trying, many things are beyond our control.
To be honest, the work that I am doing today was not in my plan. I never thought that I would end up in this place but gradually I started to understand one thing that life does not always go according to our wishes, rather many times it seems that life has some unexpected surprises in store for us. Sometimes a situation or opportunity comes in front of you that you had not imagined before. Then you may not get a chance to say much. The situation pushes you in a direction and you have to walk on that path.
These experiences have taught me one thing that putting pressure on yourself is not bad because that pressure helps us move forward towards our dreams. Now I try to be a little patient with myself because I understand that we cannot plan every path in life. Sometimes the path we did not plan is the one that teaches us something new. It is not possible to completely eliminate the stress of life. But if we understand that not everything is in our control, then maybe that stress will also become a little lighter.