As they say, there is a limit to everything because too much of everything is bad. In everything we do, we should know when to stop because you never know the aftermath. As individuals, there’s obviously some parts of our lives we don’t go about talking to everyone about.
This afternoon, I was speaking to a friend and he spoke about how he prefers to keep his personal life private. You will never see him posting his wife, kid, or even his parents. This person is someone who posts every blessed day but there has never been a day I have seen him post his close family or even family matters.
Maturity as we all know has so many meanings. There are some things we all wouldn’t expect a matured person to do. For example, you wouldn’t expect a married woman to come and post what happened between her and her husband anytime they get into an argument. But it would surprise you to know that there are people out there who still do that. Sometimes they don’t necessarily have to write the exact thing that happened but from the quotes and memes they put up, you know there’s fire on the mountain.
Privacy is a very important factor in every individuals life. I for one value my privacy very much and everyone around me knows that. Growing up, my parents trained my siblings and I to learn to know our boundaries and also not to invade other peoples privacy. But then, in as much as they tried to make us understand why having boundaries is important, they made sure to create a safe space for us all to open up and talk about what’s bothering us anyday, anytime. My younger siblings can get back from school just now and start to rant about whatever happened in school that they felt wasn’t right. In some homes, you will never see this because one or both parents would just not even give the child a listening ear which is very bad.
Everyone is private in one way or the other but we all should learn to open up when necessary. There are obviously some things about other people you can’t just try to poke your nose into, even if they are your family members. In all my years of living, I have never heard or seen my parents or other family members concern themselves with whatever happens in each others marriages. But I have for sure experienced situations where family members came out to speak about how they felt to other family members and issues were solved amicably. Even after this, you would never ever hear anyone from the family talk about what went down because someone’s issue shouldn’t even be up for discussion in the open.
Personally, I would never ever try to poke my nose into someone’s personal business unless they decide to open up to me. You don’t necessarily have to leave your loved ones to be on their own all in the name of privacy. Make sure to check up on them, ask them about what’s going on in their lives but don’t push too far and be generally open with them. The rest would just come freely. It all has to do with the other party trusting you. If someone’s trusts you, no matter who you are to the person they would open up to you if they are going through a hard time. It’s as easy as ABC. Just build trust and you are good to go.
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