A while back, I was in a conversation with a group of people and the issue of surrogacy came up. I was sent into the shock of my life when someone said that when he comes from, women who have kids through surrogates are not respected and seen as mothers no matter the situation that led to that. That led to an argument that went on and on while I sat there in total silence thinking about how people could have this kind of perception.
Having your own kids, watching them grow and nurturing them into great individuals is one thing every woman looks forward to. But not every woman is lucky to have their own kids for so many reasons. I know people who have more kids than they need, those who have lost their only kids and those who are unable to even have kids and those who also have the desired number of kids they wished for. That’s just life and everyone is not bound to have things the same way. Sadly, we’d either have to find a way out or keep trying.I always say that personally, I don’t mind adopting kids in a situation where I’m unable to have my own. But where I come from, we see just a few people adopting kids when there are so many people trying for over 10 years for kids. Being family goes beyond just blood sometimes because God created us all to be there for each other. Your child might be in the orphanage yet you fail to look there.
Over the years, we’ve had many women having kids through surrogates. Some do this due to health reason, others also do this because they don’t wish to lose their coca-cola body shape to childbirth and many more reasons. Regardless, the goal is to have a child. But, if there’s one thing I know about childbirth, it’s that carrying a baby in the womb goes beyond just having to watch them grow up until delivery. The mom and the baby use the period of 9 months to bond to each other even before the child is being born and that’s a very important part of pregnancy and childbirth.
I don’t have my own kids yet but I’d like to believe childbirth is a whole new journey on its own and a beautiful one at that and every woman would be happy and lucky to experience it. Personally, I’m not against the concept of surrogacy because you never know someone’s reason for having a surrogate mom and so it’s best to let them do what they think is best for them. This whole issue is actually a very delicate and subjective one if you ask me. So, one isn’t even supposed to go around judging and making rules which don’t make sense to everyone. You’d have to be in that situation to understand what someone is going through so in such instances, it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself because you might be doing more harm than good.
But yeah, I think it would be great if we preached the whole idea of surrogacy to the world so that women and couples who are unable to bear their own kids due to health reasons would give it a try. This should be only if the right channels are used and necessary concerns addressed before. This way, we’d be a step towards making someones dream of having a baby come true. You can always be the joy in someone’s happiness, you just have to help them in your own little way. Life is beautiful but babies make it more beautiful.
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