I’d be lying if I told you I wasn’t one hell of a social butterfly but then, I can also be the most introverted person you’d ever come across. Sounds weird, right? Most at times, I prefer to just be in my lane and on my own, but someway somehow people always find their way to me and since I’m not one to snub people, I vibe with them and that’s how we become either acquaintances or friends.
I’m not one to mix with so many people as I prefer to have my peace of mind. My circle of friends is really a small one and even with that, it can be very exhausting sometimes. Regardless, no man is an island and so I have to always put in efforts to keep the people who care about me in my life. It’s generally not right to give back negative vibes to someone who’s bringing the positive vibe to the relationship.
Everyday, I meet so many people to the extent that I’m unable to even recall the faces of most people
I meet everyday. That’s how overwhelming it can be for me. But then, growing up, I’ve come across so many people in life, both as a child and as an adult. As a child, I didn’t really know that people were allowed to cut others off if they wanted to. I thought it was a bad thing to do but now, I know better.
One thing about me is that, you no get pride pass me. No matter the situation and how much I want to maintain a relationship or friendship, once I sense some level of disrespect or not wanting me around, I just pack my bag and baggage and off I go. I’ve had people cut me off for no reason and I don’t even bother to ask because it’s their decision and I’ve also cut people off for my own reasons.
If you know me, you know I hate drama. Aside the drama in movies, all other forms of drama is a no go area for me. Somewhere last year, I met this friend of mine at an event and we instantly bonded. At that time, I had made up my mind to invest more in female friendships and so meeting her was like my first step to that. We would literally do everything together , she would text me all day, call to gist me and a whole lot. We were both open minded people and so I felt it was very easy for us to bond. At that particular point in time, we used to see each other all the time as we were staying in the same place.
But then, she had to go back to her country at some point in time. That however, didn’t stop us from being friends. We would talk all day about so many things and it felt good to finally have someone who understood you to some extent or so I thought. But, everything went south one day when we were talking about something that had to do with relationships. Actually, she brought up that conversation and started to talk about her relationship. After she had said her piece, I also shared my view on the topic and that was how it all started.
She ghosted me for no reason only to come back days later to tell me she felt attacked. Attacked as in how? I was shocked to the core because what I said wouldn’t even be considered as me attacking her, I was simply sharing my view. So someone cannot say their mind in a friendship again? From then on, she would reply my texts late, give attitude and all of that. I even started to wonder if we were in a romantic relationship because not even a guy can try to stress me out this way.
Eventually, I decided to just cut her off cos she wasn’t adding anything to my life aside stress. We had a good thing going for a while but at some point, one has to know when the leave. She later came around trying to bring things back to the way they were but I wasn’t really in for all the drama. And that’s how we ended our friendship. I think it was actually for the best since I finally got to have some peace in my life.
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