Traditional marriage is celebrated differently according to a tribe's culture. This week's edition from Hive learners community is all about culture and I will be glad to share with you all how traditional wedding ceremony is being celebrated in my own part of Igbo land.
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Although white weddings and court marriages are practiced quite the same all over the world, traditional marriages are different for each people. Tell us how it is done in your tribe. We would love to know
I am from Enugu State, Nsukka to be prescise. The first step is making the intentions of the intending couple known to both parents and when their intentions are being approved, they will proceed to fixing a date for the INTRODUCTION
The picture is mine
The introduction usually involves only the two family involved and just few of the elders from our clan. Kola nuts, garden eggs, palm wine and food will be presented to the intending in-laws and no one eats the food nor drink the wine until the intending bride is invited and she will be asked officially if she truly wants to marry the man. So if the answer is yes, she will be the person to order everyone to eat and drink. After the merriment, discussion about the main Traditional marriage will hold where the bride's family will explain to the groom's family the type of food and drinks to be prepared on the D-Day.
One important thing about my tribe when you come to marriage is that, we don't issue lists of nemerous items to the in-laws! Sounds funny right?
Yes we don't, the in-law will only be made to know what and what is needed for a successful traditional wedding and he will provide what is needed in his own capacity, no one tasks him on how much quantity to be provided.
Having said that, preparations for the traditional marriage will commence once a date has been fixed. On that day, the main entrance to the bride's home where the marriage is usually conducted will be closed with a long rope and once the in-laws arrive, the bride with the bridesmaids together with the local music players will go welcome them with lots of dance and music, but first of all, the groom will spray money to the bride before she can cut the rope and grant them access.
This is the day dowry will be paid but before that, the eldest of our community will give a cup of palm wine to the bride to go round in search of her husband within the crowd and when she locates her husband, she will feed him with the palm wine and when the husband drinks it, it shows they have accepted the marriage. On this note, the bride will then take him to the royal seat meant for the couple.
This is me 8years ago🤦
At this point there will be a royal dance by the couple as directed by the M.C followed by item 7 which is good, food, food😀 drinks and the rest. The last step is payment of dowry and after the dowry has been paid, the bride's family will hand over the woman to her new husband and have them blessed! The family will also present tangible gifts to the couple , (this is known as idu uno) Words of advice and encouragement will also be given to the couple.
This was exactly how my own traditional marriage took place and till date, it's same as our marriage culture.
Thanks for reading, I do hope you enjoyed our culture.
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