Often times, people raise eyebrows on romantic relationships with a large age gap, but the question is, does age really matter in relationships? Indeed, age is just a number. What matters the most is the emotional maturity in the parts of the lovers, compatibility, respect, love, understanding, and other vital attributes that make relationships work. In every relationship, emotional maturity shouldn't be overlooked, regardless of how old the couples are.
Having said that, it is common to see young ladies marry a guy that is older than them, but when a guy is set to marry a lady who is older than him, society sees it as taboo. In fact, most families wouldn't give their consent to such marriages because they would assume that the woman would have total control over the man in the future. Why some men may not care about the age gap or what society says, most times, the family puts an end to it considering the possible future effect.
As much as I totally agree that age is just a number in relationships, one of my concerns has been on the part of men. Okay, let me say our African men, whom I have seen demonstrate their authority over women due to large age differences. I hate to see a controlling behavior in a man toward his woman due to the age gap. During dating, I feel that the two people involved in relationships should watch out for this behavior. Once any of the partners shows authoritative leadership, then it shouldn't fly. It takes more than our feelings to say yes to marriage. You wouldn't want a situation where your partner will be constantly reminding you that he or she is not your mate in every little argument.
Also, being advanced in age doesn't mean you're mature. I have seen a 21-year-old lady who reasons maturely and has the ability to handle emotions and critical issues in her marriage. I have also had a 34-year-old friend who behaves like a child in her marriage. She will hardly have a concrete discussion and reach a solid decision with her husband. Most of the things that go on in her family are only through the effort of her husband when the two people in a relationship are supposed to always brainstorm together, but unfortunately, the lady has nothing upstairs, even though she is of age.
Age gap in relationships is a very complex issue, but personally, I am of the opinion that as much as age shouldn't be a barrier in relationships, sticking with someone you are compatible with and that you have mutual understanding with is cool.
Also, I wouldn't go for a man who is very older than me because of the aspect of having children and raising them together. I wouldn't love the idea of raising my children with a very old and physically worn-out man all in the name of having feelings for him.
In conclusion, these are things I take into account because it takes more than just feelings to keep relationships. We have to consider several factors before jumping into relationships, regardless of age differences and feelings. However, remember to always go with what makes you happy! We are all entitled to our different opinions.
This is my response to the #hivelearners contest on the topic titled, Age Is Just A Number.
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