A lot of things kept changing in our world today. Many things have drifted from how they were in the past, including how we perceive marriages. Before now, marriage was seen as a sacred institution, valued and well-respected practically, but nowadays, I am finding it difficult to understand what went wrong.
Divorce has been the order of the day. You could hardly explore the Internet without reading about one divorce story and another; however, I understand that people change, and thus divorce sets in. I guess this is why many people are now taking precautions by embracing prenuptial agreements prior to tying the knot.
Talking about prenuptial agreements, I will be sincere to say that yesterday was the first time I got a clear understanding of the meaning of this word. I feel like maybe I am too innocent to know that this thing exists, hehehe, maybe because it's not too rampant in my country. To be frank, I am more conversant with court marriages and what they entail between married couples. To satisfy my curiosity, I visited the Oxford dictionary, and it defined prenuptial agreement for me as "a formal agreement made between two people before they get married, typically dealing with financial matters and the division of property in the event of divorce or death"
Wow, what a discovery! But then, this understanding of prenuptial agreements makes me ponder many things about marriage. It's really forcing me to ask the question, which is, is marriage also a business? Will people without reasonable assets talk about a prenuptial agreement before getting married? This signing of a prenup sounds to me like marriage is more of a formal relationship between a man and a woman, which isn't supposed to be so.
Please note, this is only my sincere perspective about this controversial topic. Of course, many of us have different views, either for prenups or against it, due to different reasons. But Permit me to say that love should be enough, and personally, I wouldn’t marry someone who wanted a prenup. If you are requesting a prenuptial agreement prior to our marriage, you are directly telling me that divorce is a possibility and an option. Can you see that? Even though most people who divorce today never saw it coming, originally, love should conquer all. Do we really understand what it means to love? I do not mean having feelings for someone but genuine love. See, you can't hurt who you love if truly we understand very well what love entails.
No couple can claim to have a perfect marriage, but then I strongly believe love is enough to keep a marriage. Love is trust. Love is commitment. Love is sacrifice. So whatever challenge that could lead to divorce, love should be enough to fix it, so I don’t think there's a need for a prenuptial agreement for me.
Some people argue that a prenup is very important and it helps to protect the couple and also that love has nothing to do with it... Always protect yourself and don’t allow your emotions to take over your common sense, blah blah blah, but then how uncomfortable it is for me to discuss this kind of financial legal agreement with the person I claim to love prior to marriage. It kept sounding like marriage is now business, honestly. I perfectly understand the precaution aspect due to how people change nowadays, but I strongly believe that love—genuine love and not feelings—should be enough to keep marriage from shattering.
So no, I won’t be signing a prenuptial agreement; love should be enough. Marriage should be built on love, trust, and faith in God, and by so doing, it would be a lasting one that God is the foundation. This is my belief!