Friendship is one of the most interesting thing I have ever seen. It helps a lot in the growth and development of an individual. People can share different things with their friends, even secrets.
To some people, making friends is as easy as blinking due to their social nature. To other people, it can be very difficult to make friends, while to some other people, they hardly consider people as their friends. They just roll with people but not actually be friends with them. Instead of friendship, they prefer to have an acquaintance.
The concept of friendship is one that has both lime and sweet oranges in it. Friendship can be a two sharp edged sword, and it all depends on the type of friends a person keeps and also, an individuals ability to not be easily influenced to do things that would are not beneficial to their growth and development.
Sometimes, I look at it this way, a friend can destroy somebody. Again, the people we call friends can build us and put us in high places. There is one saying that I love. It goes like this When you flow with 5 millionaire, you will undoubtedly become the 6th millionaire, conversely, when you flow with 5 foolish people, you undoubtedly become the 6th foolish person." ~ Unknown.
Its important we keep friends that share the same values as we do. Sometimes, our friends add less to our lives and we start thinking twice about their use to us as a friend. The thought - Why do I have this guy/girl as a friend? Would I not be happier if I don't have them as friends? Welp, thats why i'm writing this post, which is an entry for hive learners prompt titled - Friends.
In this post, I would write about how easy for me to make friends, If I like making friends and I will also share my reasons for my answers.
One major thing about me that some of you have probably realized is that I'm terrible at making friends. When the context is about friendship, I look for a back exit. Inarguably, friendship is a good thing, but then, to me, I think I'm happy the way I am.
I have good relationships with people. I think the relationship is basically transactional. People like me (I think) and I try to accommodate as many people as I can but when someone offers to be my friend, I politely turn them down. I prefer to have a lot of acquaintances than to have a friend.
I actually have a few people that I can call a friend. I think they are not up to a handful, but then, I have lots of acquaintances. I roll with everyone, even children.
I think its really difficult to make friends because most people I have come seen don't share the same values as I do. Their mentality is quite different from mine. Growing up with little to nothing, I focus on making something for myself. Instead of waiting for an opportunity, I believing in making an opportunity for myself and others. There are lots of things about me that many people can't relate to. Sometimes, they feel intimidated (I don't know why) and begin to subconsciously bring down themselves whenever they are around me. I really hate it when people do this. I see myself as equal, or even lower than them, not higher than anyone.
Another reason why I'm terrible at making friends is that I hardly trust people. I don't have trust issues. I just don't trust another person's ability to be there for me when I need them. I don't even have expectations on anybody when I'm passing a rough time. I handle everything alone without needing anybody to be there for me. Also, I don't trust my ability to be there for my friend when they need me the most. I may be busy with another important thing, and not pickup the phone when I'm called.
The funny thing about all these is that I love it the way it is. I don't want to have a lot of friends. I like it that i'm terrible at making friends and honestly, I'm actually very happy because I have little to no distractions from friends.