Different people have their different and unique parenting style. Some of these parenting style are good and okay while some pushes the children to become a havoc to the given community, society or the world at large.
Parents are the first people to impact either good or bad to a child. Though some parents impact both good and bad (unconsciously) all together.
Children are taught many things. Starting from the subconscious learning by mirroring adults to the conscious learning of washing of dishes, going to school to learn ABC and many more..
Growing up as an African child who was not born with a bronze, silver, gold or diamond spoon, I was taught the importance of living in the moment while cherishing it but at the same time, making plans for a better tomorrow. I was taught the importance of genuine kindness and the great value of humility. Respect, humility, and kindness, as my parent always say, is the greatest tool a person should carry with them no matter where they find themselves.
Some parents these days raise their children in a way that seems more or less self centered.
They put a mindset in the minds of their children that requires the child to take care of them when they are old. I would not say that this is bad or good. Who I'm I to judge? But personally, I do not actually see this as a good way of parenting. Inarguably, when we get old, we need people to care for us. We need company so we would not feel lonely. We need all the attention we can get so as to tell our stories. We need a lot at this time. However, I do not see it as good to feed your childs mindset with the convincing information of taking care of you when you are old. I see it as mental slavery.
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I do not want to bring the Bible here because this is not actually a religious group, but one thing I know is that: even my faith said we should give out of willingness and kindness not by being forced to, or by being manipulated. The parents responsibility is to care for the children, because why not? You brought the child into the world, so, automatically, you have been endowed with that responsibility.
I am not saying that the elderly should be abandoned by their children, NO. All I am saying is that a child should be allowed to choose wether or not they want to shoulder the responsibility.
A child has a long way to go. They need to see more of life and utilize the opportunity to be the best parent for their own children. They need to work, explore and bring new life to earth. They also need to take proper care of their own family.
During these times, it is more or less difficult for the child in question because the responsibilities they have may be more or less overwhelming. Adding another responsibility to themselves can make them go mad at this juncture.
I will not support any elderly to fully depend on their children for anything. The child has something to do with their life. This is the basic reason why the home for elderly was invented and also, this is the reason you have a nurse. Instead of disturbing that child to leave what they are doing and start caring for you, why not simply employ a nurse to take care of you at home.
Also, at a young age, people should save up money so that they can pay some bills when they are old. This is why passive income is important. At Robert Kiyosaki's age, or no matter how old he tends to be, he will not depend on his children for anything. Just occasional visits. Because he can do literally everything for himself.
The only thing a child owes their parent is tender loving care at an occasional basis.
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it is important for child to pay their parents bills as this gives the parent joy to keep living. It gives an extra joy to see a kid you wiped their butt, pay your bills and take care of you at a young age. It brings this sense of satisfaction. As is said earlier, it is not compulsory to take up the responsibility for your elderly parent, but then, do unto others as you want others to do unto you.
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