Anger, sadness, hurt, pain, disappointment and heartbreak are some of the things that could make a person hold a grudge for a long time. Life is filled with many things. It brings joy and also, sadness. Life has some people that never let go of the bad things that happened to them unless they pass it forward. It's quite interesting, but in my perspective, I don't really think its the ideal thing to do.
The waves of life will always through many unfavorable things to you, however, it is left for the surfer to grow into professionalism so as not to allow the hardships they face pull them down or affect their social life.
My inexperienced self have come across many people in life. I have seen those that will forgive and forget within a few minutes. I have seen those that will forgive but never forget, and also, I have seen people that will neither forgive nor forget until they make the offender or somebody else pass through what they passed through.
I once had the mindset of passing the hurt forward, but then, when I thought of it, that action will make be become the monster I despised. From my perspective, forgiving is good, forgetting is beautiful but what's more beautiful is not letting other people feel the bad feelings you felt when somebody hurt you.
This post is an entry for hive learners prompt, Circle of pain. In this post, I have already written my perspective of passing pain forward. I will go further to write on if somebody should be held accountable for being hurt.
To many people, revenge is the sweetest feeling ever. They want others to feel the hurt and pain they felt. However, I don't really think its an ideal thing because it brings about an endless circle of negativities. For example, Lets say Mr A hurts Mr B, and Mr B goes further to pass that hurt to Mr C, Mr C could decide to pass it on and corrode the next person, or he can decide to let go of the anger and pain in his heart, heal and save the next person.
I think every body should be held accountable for their actions. I don't really believe in the saying that, somebody hurt another person because somebody else hurt them in the past. Thats not logical.
I think the past is the past, it brings lessons and experience. It may bring PTSD which is why therapy is in existence. However, If a person hurt another person because of the fact that somebody else hurt them, I think they should be held accountable for their wrong doings.
From my perspective, i think the only exceptions there could be is if a person have severe PTSD from wars, or something, or when a person has mental illness. But if a sane person hurt another person because they were hurt in the past, I think they should be held accountable for every bit of their actions.
Thank you for reading.
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