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Good day, people of Hive! Welcome to my blog. Today’s topic is from Hive Learners, which says: Letting Go. So let’s dive in.
Honestly, letting go is one of the hardest things to do, especially when it’s our own family. It’s easy to walk away from friends who make us feel stuck or not moving forward, but when it’s family, it’s not easy at all. Because they are the people who love us, care for us, and want the best for us.
There are times when our family doesn’t see things the way we do. We might have our own dreams, but they want us to do something different from what we want to do. Yes, they meant well most times, but the truth is, it still hurts when the people we love and care for don’t support our dreams. Our family may love us deeply but still not understand us. Sometimes, they think they’re helping us. They also believe they’re protecting us.
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For example, maybe our parents want us to follow a different career than the one we want because they think it better. Maybe I want to become a teacher, but they say I must become a doctor or a lawyer because it’s a better job than a teacher.
A friend of mine once told me about someone she knew who wanted to chase after his dream, but his parents refused to let him. Instead, they told him to go for another career they felt was better for him. He refused, and his parents told him that if he chase after his own dream instead of theirs, they would disown him and refused to pay his school fees. Because of that, he guy agreed to follow their choice. After four years, he graduated from university, then wrote another JAMB to chase his own real dream. He said he had satisfied his parents by doing what they wanted, and now it was time for him to do what he wanted. It was last year he graduated from school, but according to my friend, his parents refused to pay his fees during his school days because he disobeyed them by going after his own dream.
Such situations can be very painful because the people we expect to support, care for, and understand us are the same people who stand against us when we try to after our dreams. To the guy’s parents, they may think they’re protecting and looking out for him, which is understandable, but to me, it’s wrong not to support him. Their support and care matter a lot.
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Sometimes, our family acts that way out of fear. They don’t want us to fail or struggle in life by chasing after our dream that will later become something else for us. They think they’re helping, but they don’t understand that we need to live our own lives and learn things in our own ways. We can’t continue to live our lives trying to please everyone or make everyone happy. At the end of the day, it’s our life. We’re the ones who will face the consequences of our decisions. So if we keep doing what our family wants instead of what we want, we might end up unhappy and blaming ourselves later.
Letting go doesn’t mean we should stop loving our family. Sometimes, we just need space by distancing ourselves a little from our family and focus on our dreams. Sometimes, when we refuse to follow the path our family wants us to follow, they always tells us that: either we follow our own dreams and forget they exist, or we follow their own dream. Honestly, choosing between family and our own dream is not that easy because we don’t want to lose either our family or our dream. But sometimes, if staying means losing our dream, then it’s okay to distance ourselves. Later, they will come to realize how important our dreams are to us.
In conclusion, letting go is hard, but sometimes it’s the only way to find peace, and happiness. And when our family finally sees us becoming someone successful, that's when they will understand why we had to make that choice.
This is my entry for the Hive Learners Featured Content Week 186 Episode 01
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