Something happened today that just made me realize how much a lot of people prefer to just leave things to chance instead of choosing to be in charge of things that happen in their lives and making sure they go the way they want them to go.
About an hour ago, a friend of mine was telling me about this girl that he likes who apparently likes him too (she had mentioned it during one of their many conversations) and how he was currently confused because of her recent behavior. They're not in a relationship yet but unlike what she told him, he feels like her recent behaviors towards him doesn't really tally with the feelings she claim to have for him.
So he was telling me about her this evening and basically was saying that he wasn't going to do anything extra but was just going to move with the flow of things and if things works out, then good and if it doesn't, fine. The moment I heard him say those words, I immediately shook my head and told him how that was a bad idea because personally, I believe if we want something or if we like someone, then we should be bold enough to go for it and not just leave things to chance.
I get it that things may not always go the way we want it, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't try. Trying is far more better than just leaving things to chance especially when the other party already confessed their feelings towards you.
And this ideology doesn't only apply to relationships but to life in general. We really should stop leaving things to chance and work towards whatever it is we want to achieve in life. I'm not saying it's a bad idea leaving things to chance, it's just that shouldn't be a way to live one's life. Everyone should be in charge of their narratives or at least try. That way you get to know a little bit quicker if things will work out or not.
Because not being in charge is like you giving the other person all of the power over you which never is a good idea because now they can do whatever they want with you and if they go towards the direction you don't like, you end up getting hurt badly.
Sadly, I don't think this friend of mine has the balls to take charge but hopefully he does and who knows, maybe she's only acting different now because she's upset she told him she likes him and he hasn't done anything about it yet.