About an hour ago, I was in a meeting with some guys at my hostel discussing some issues and somewhere along the line, a conversation about telling lies had come up. I had mentioned how I rarely tell lies but if I must, it always has to be a well told lie, one that no one would be able to find out the truth no matter how hard they try and the reason for that is because I'm an overthinker.
I love to think about things ahead of time and the many possible scenerios in which that thing could go either wrong or right, and then I plan from there, making sure to cover every loophole if possible before going ahead to tell that lie. Which is probably why I try not to lie because unlike most people who tell stupid lies without thinking much about it, it's a long process for me, one I only love to go through when absolutely necessary.
You may be wondering why I'm telling y'all this, well it's because just like I think ahead when telling a lie, I do the same when making decisions too. I always make sure to think of how the decisions I take could affect me either in a good way or in a bad way, and in most cases, if I discovered that I just might not be able to survive the bad way of that decision, I think of something else, because unlike people who only like to focus on the good stuff happening to them, I'm very realistic and I know that in life, both the good and bad could happen to anyone, it's all 50-50.
I think this is why most of my friends do confide in me or ask me for advise because they know I don't just open my mouth to talk, they know I always take my time, think thoroughly about whatever it is they want my advise on before finally giving it. And in most cases, I don't just tell them the good side of things because that is all most people want to hear, and then when things doesn't exactly go their way, they blame you for it.
This is why I make sure to tell them both the good side and the bad side and then sometimes I let them weigh their options and choose for themselves what decision they would like to make. That way, if things end up going any direction, they don't get to blame me for it because I didn't make the decision for them, I only helped to break down their options, giving them a better understanding of it and then letting them choose what they feel is best for them.
At the of the day, my decision making process is a very simple one. Depending on what I'm trying to decide on, I look at the issue, weigh my options after presenting both the good and bad side of whatever direction I'm about to take, then I decide if the risk is worth it..depending on the response I get on that, then I know what the next step to take is.