Sometimes, I wonder why people choose to make their lives miserable just for the sake of relationships, friendships, and even being a member of a family.
I keep wondering how they cope with toxic relationships, friendships, and even toxic family members because health-wise it is not good to be in a toxic relationship, but still some people still prefer to be in the relationship rather than to have peace of mind for themselves.
There was a Nigerian gospel artist who died in a toxic marriage just because she was scared of what people would say and wanted to stay as a good role model for people in the society.
To me, that is not a good reason to throw my peace of mind away just for the sake of what people will say about me. I don't care what anyone thinks of me as long as I don't have peace of mind.
I have been there before, and I can tell how exhausting, scary, and frustrating it is to be in a toxic relationship with someone or people around you. My ex was a jealous type of guy, which made him toxic and violent in nature. At first I thought I wasn't doing something right, but the first day he slapped me publicly, I knew we were not meant for each other because if I should marry someone like that, he will end up killing me with his jealousness and violent nature.
Ever since then I realized that everyone has a choice to choose to stay or leave, but most people that are still in a toxic relationship were probably there for their selfish interest or what people will say, which is not enough excuse to stay in such a situation.
The worst part that I don't like about people in a toxic relationship or friendship is the aspect of defending the bad thing their partner did to them, all because they don't want people to judge them, which is very wrong.
A friend of mine has another friend who is in a toxic relationship, but she didn't see anything bad in the way her boyfriend is treating her.
I went to my friend's shop to get some clothes because that's what she sells. The lady in question was there with us, and we were all talking. All of a sudden her boyfriend came with a bike, and immediately he entered the shop; she just started shouting at the girl, and while the girl was trying to explain herself, he gave her a deep slap on her face and then left.
Immediately he slapped her; everywhere was silent because we couldn't comprehend what they were arguing about and why she deserved such treatment outside, but my biggest surprise was that she started smiling and then said, "I must have made him angry at home before coming outside.".
My friend wanted to defend her before, but immediately she defended her boyfriend; the two of us laughed as well and supported her decisions since we were not the ones getting the slap.
One thing I know for sure is that most people are in a toxic relationship for a reason, and they have the choice to leave, but they are either scared or enjoying the situation. But for those who are in the situation by mistake, I think the best thing to do is to walk away and avoid the person completely, no matter how important the person is to them.