Some things easily anger us, whether it’s someone who gets on our nerves or someone we feel disappointed in. And at other times, anger can arise when you are stressed and something or someone fails to meet your expectations.
For instance, you arrived from work with such a hectic day and a workload piled up on your desk. You were supposed to get home at a certain time but you already knew you would be late. You then call home to prepare something before you get home but on getting home, you met everywhere unorganised and the meal wasn't prepared.
If you are one with anger issues, imagine what would happen next.
I used to have a bad temper before. I would easily get angry at a little provocation, and many times, I was proud of such a personality. But as I grew up, I started noticing how bad the anger was. I don’t like who I am whenever I am angry, and I have also tried to avoid circumstances that could make me not get angry, but it wasn’t just possible because this usually happens in the home with my siblings. So, how do I avoid that?
My sister shared her experience one day with me on how to stop being angry and most importantly, to pray about it. She was able to overcome her anger issue with a few practical steps, which I took and began working on myself. Mostly, I don’t easily get angry at people other than my siblings. But still, I really wanted to overcome my anger issue, especially as a lady that I am.
When I surrendered completely to walking a new life in Christ, I realised getting angry unnecessarily wasn't holy. I know there are good and bad anger. The good anger is when you frown at something not healthy or holy but mine was the opposite. I kept praying for God to help me deal with anger. The more I kept praying, the more I had situations that would help me train myself and control myself.
Looking at myself now, I wouldn’t say I am 💯 free from getting angry but it isn't as it was before. My anger reaction used to happen so quickly as if it were a fuel added to a small fire. I wasn't always patient enough to find out the cause of something until I was done reacting, and then I would calm down.
But today, I noticed something in me. Whenever a situation comes where it requires me to unleash my anger, I would calm down and remind myself how I have been trying to overcome this. I would remind myself of the scripture that talks about anger that doesn't produce the righteousness of God.
The Bible says anger is a sin, and we must be careful not to let our anger follow us to bed, but to resolve whatever it is and let go.
But if there is something about my anger, it doesn't last long. I make sure to quickly calm down and not let it take root in me even letting it go over the next day. In fact, once I am angry, I am calmed the next minute. That's me for you.
I don’t like situations where being angry wouldn't allow me to move forward or do what I need to do next. I wouldn't even be able to sleep with my heart carrying anger around. So, I make sure to settle whatever it is and continue my life.
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