I hate blowing the trumpet.

Have you been in a situation where someone helped you and after a while, he or she keeps bringing to your remembrance the help rendered just because they want you to return it to them? Or have you ever lived with someone who keeps providing three square meals for you and will always say it out everywhere, making people know they did you a favour?

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Such an act means they are blowing the trumpet. So, the title above isn't about hating an instrument; but like a clickbait.

Yoruba will call it “Iregun”. It is a word that means blowing the trumpet after doing something good for someone.

Blow one's trumpet is an idiom word which means a person talking about one's achievement, especially in a way that shows the person is bragging and being proud or too proud.

When you have encountered someone; either a friend or your family member telling you what they have done in your life to want help from you, such a person is blowing the trumpet.

I hate when someone does something good and keeps blowing it out everywhere, making people know they have done something for the person. It means you are putting yourself in the position that, without you, there is no one else. To me, it is a total absurdity because you are in a way acting like a god.

My Aunt is an example of such a person and I know what I went through in her hands. I lived with her for over 10 years and because she is the middle person between myself and her siblings who have helped us till this moment, she won't stop blowing the trumpet for everyone who comes around, making the people see her as a god or messiah she thinks she is. I have seen hell with her because of this attitude towards life and she will never stop doing that.

She would always tell people that it is because of her prayer that we could achieve all we have today but I never succumb to such an idea because I believe it is God who has made all possible.

The truth is that God has placed every human being in our lives to help us, but when you have gone to the extent of blowing the trumpet for everyone that you made us who we are today, you will be met with disgrace in the end. Such a person will realize that such isn't needed. Do what you have to do in your capacity and let God take the glory. Does the Bible not say when our right hand is doing good, the left hand shouldn't know?

It says when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what you are doing because when you help secretly, your Father (God) who knows, will reward you openly. But some people do not want to understand this because all they are after is “Let them see me”. Well, it gives them the boost, but the end is a disgrace.

When you have someone under your roof, who you are helping in one way or the other, it is not for you to start announcing to everyone that you are the one who clothes, feeds, housed him or her, or even make the person feel bad of his or her condition because, during my stay with her, I kept regretting coming to her place and as at then, I had no choice; my parents weren't capable and that gave her the full right to always blow the trumpet to everyone that comes around.

Let them see me, I hate it!

I will never do such a thing because something I will always remember is that God has placed me in the position to render help and without me, someone else will do it.

I never understood much then when my aunt would always get me something which I will be so excited about and thanked her, only for her to tell another person about it next time, perhaps when I do something wrong. The clothes she is putting on, I bought them for her! That exam she did and passed, I was the one who prayed and fasted! The Jamb she did, I was the one who pleaded with my siblings to give her the money and words like that. These are what I have experienced with my Aunt.

I have promised myself that no matter what help I render to people, you will never hear me blowing the trumpet everywhere, making people see me as a goddess or saviour. No! But there are sometimes one would want to make a testimony out of it, and that's okay because there is a difference between giving testimony of what you did that resulted to something and announcing to people what you did to receive back.

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