Humans have this way of shocking us because of how we have judged them and they end up turning the opposite of our evaluation of them. We have been made to believe that we are addressed the way we are dressed as we couldn't go further to check who one really is. Even the word of God says we should taste it and see God is good. It is only someone who hasn't experienced the power of God that concludes He is not alive in Him or her. It is only when you do not move closer to a person would you think he or she is not kind because you have concluded that he is not, whereas, such a person is more than nicer in reality.
Many of us including myself have judged people by their looks and behaviours, sometimes we ended up being right and other times, we are wrong. The ones we are right about, we feel we are sensitive enough to avoid danger or trouble, while the ones we are wrong about are the ones that surprise or shock us the most.
Do not judge a book by its cover was a quote I came across long ago but I have found myself several times still judging people or things as I may be right or wrong just as I have stated above. But in all, I learn my lesson not to underestimate people or things.
Let me start with how I judged someone but ended up being wrong...
Before I gained admission into the University, I was a chorister at RCCG in Ogun State. There is this man, a deacon, his wife a deaconess, and a beautiful daughter. With how this man plays the keyboard, gives advice during worker's meetings, and plays with both little children and adults, one would think he was a nice and godly person. I saw this man and admired him as someone one could move close to and interact with because I saw him as a responsible man whose marriage is sweet and amazing. The way he plays around and even talks about his wife made me believe he had a beautiful home with no issues until I was wrong about him.
He knew my Dad and many times would ask how he was fairing, and I, on my part would always share things like Dad has travelled while I take care of my siblings at home, things like that. On this day, we finished the Saturday worker's meeting and he requested he should drive me home, his wife and daughter weren't around and I guess, that gave him the time to do what he wanted to do. I declined him with a smile and excuse that I needed to branch somewhere. He insisted until I allowed him thinking he was just acting nice and wanted to take me home in his car.
When we got home, instead of leaving, he followed me inside, and that was when I was starting to suspect something about him but I allowed him, while gradually being observant too. We both talked while my younger brother was inside and the next thing he whispered into my ears was that he wants us to be dating, he likes me and... I quickly stood up and told him to start leaving. For many weeks, this man was always tracing me home with his car, but not until I reported him to my choirmaster, that was when I heard that he has always been doing that, especially to married women in the church and other parishes. I was overwhelmed with shock as I didn't believe he could do such as the deacon he was.
That was when I realized not everyone is a true believer in Christ as they pretend to be who they are not, but in another way, we shouldn't judge others. Only God knows His true people.
Judged and was right...
When I was in school, you know the case of beauty without the brain, especially amongst girls who claim to be "Big girls on campus"? I had that lady in my department. The way she dresses gorgeously and would put on high heels to the class with her red Jeep car as if she was attending a party, I have concluded she may not have anything upstairs. This lady and her crew would be everywhere in the class as they likes to show and impress others. The first time I heard she cheated with her phone all through the examination period, I wasn't surprised because I have concluded she doesn't know anything other than showing off.
We needed to present for micro-teaching as counsellors to be before we are sent out to practice what we have learnt in school, and this lady was part of my group. When I knew, I was sad because according to the source, the lecturer in charge knew what he was doing and whoever he chose to present will determine the mark for everyone in the group. I and others prepared while she didn't join us to share ideas. In my mind, I prayed she should not be chosen because I didn't trust her. I knew she would fuck up and affect us. On that day, she was picked which got me unhappy. With her heels making noise as she walked to the front of the class, she couldn't express herself in English as she kept swaying her body while moving her legs from right to left, not knowing what to say.
I was pissed off because why? Are we here for a fashion show or what? Even other members of my group were so angry because she was picked and we later got to know the lecturer intentionally picked to embarrass her, knowing who she really was. Thank God we were favoured. I wasn't wrong but right with how I judged her.
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