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While we were growing up, I used to get angry at the slightest mistake of anyone around me and would confidently tell such a person not to talk to me unless they apologized by giving them the deadline for the apology and if not, forever is my enmity with them. I never understood what freeing one's mind is capable of doing.
I started growing up and got to realize that life is too short to start keeping malice or holding grudges against anyone. My family has this anger issue which I took from my Father. My Dad is so stubborn and can get angry easily but mine is much more than my Dad. I get angry to the extent that I decide on that spot and by the time I feel calm, I regret my thoughts then.
Thank God I worked on it gradually and today, even though I get annoyed to the point of getting angry, I still get calm and move on with my life.
I consider all anger which is caused by frustration from people to be a mild annoyance because it doesn't last long. If you love people around you, no matter how much they make you angry, you will still come back to being good and normal with them.
People don't usually see me getting angry because they see it as another thing for me. I smile so much even when they expect me to get angry because I noticed something — When I get angry, it will affect my mood for that day and I have a lot to do for something to start holding me back.
Being in a sad mood or holding grudges against someone will stop me from thinking positively because all in my mind would be that person and how he or she has hurt me. This is why I don't get angry.
Though it's normal to be pissed off and get annoyed, we can still learn how to control it so it doesn't stop us from achieving what we intended for that day.
I don't think I have some set of people I don't get angry with no matter how much they have hurt me because I give everyone the same treatment and result. Life is too short to start dwelling on the past deed of someone to you. You just have to let go and keep getting better each day.
I love everyone irrespective of who they are and even if I am angry, it's either I let you know what you did or sleep and forget about what had happened. That doesn't stop me from relating with you. I already moved on with my life.
I will only share an experience of someone who made me angry to the extent that I was crying because it hurt me, but I forgot and still embraced her.
There is nothing my siblings will do to me that will make me get angry completely to the extent that I forget or ignore them. They are my blood after all and I wouldn't want to keep them away from me. Even if you apologize or not, I don't use that against you or them.
I and my immediate younger sister had a little misunderstanding that day and it was something she could easily let go but at that time, I understood her present moment and allowed her to insult me to the extent that I was hurt too and started crying. A different person could harm such a sister because those words she said were too heavy in her mouth to utter to her elder sister but no, we have come a long way to start turning our backs on each other.
The next day, she was travelling back to her place because we came home to celebrate Christmas. I bid her goodbye and we continued our chatting as if nothing happened. Till today, she never apologized and that doesn't bother me too. If not for this topic, I wouldn't have remembered such a thing happened but it's all gone for good.
My anger doesn't last at all with anyone. I see it as something that keeps me back from doing things I needed to do because I will only be thinking about the pain and not what I should do to get my life better. I have always understood the power of positivity and a little thing can trigger it from being practiced in our lives.
