Love is a beautiful thing, and it's hard to leave a relationship when one of the partners has fallen deep into love with the other, disallowing them to see the good sides of life when things are not going smoothly with them. They feel they can change the other person whose behaviour is likened to a monster or beast, and amidst that, they prefer to stay while enduring the sufferings. While it favours some of them using the lesson that patience is the key, it doesn't work for others.
There is a difference between when you are in the right relationship where you understand that it is normal to go through ups and downs while enduring and allowing the behaviour of your partner knowing someday if both of them could go through it together, they will find victory, and on the other hand, the difference is obvious with someone into a relationship for the wrong reason, enduring the toxicity of the other person and using love as an excuse to stay even when they are being affected emotionally and psychologically.
I have seen lots of relationships like that and it makes me feel bad for the victims and most times, I just don't look at their sides anymore and would say, "I can't pity this person" because they have seen more than 1000 reasons to leave but refused thinking their partner would change. It is in this process of assuming change for them that they lost their lives, and then they are at fault for not leaving when they should.
Victims like this often tend to bend to what society will say rather than their value or worth. They listen to the public more than their instincts or minds even when they know they ought to not stay for their well-being, but it doesn't happen.
I used to say it is better to see the signs of toxicity and also have a little taste of it when you are still dating or courting than to get into marriage because it would be easier to leave then, but most people prefer to stay thinking they'd keep fighting to the end which later ends up in a bad state for them as it mostly too late to make a u-turn especially when it leads to death.
I don't see any reason for someone to still stay when they are experiencing toxicity which affects them with excuses like, "he/she will change," "I love him/her and it's hard to leave," "He/she is supporting me in this aspect," and the top of it all is one in which the lady would say, "My children would suffer if I leave him," and so on like that. It is worthy to know that life is important when in toxicity and it doesn't mean one wouldn't find someone better or life will not continue for them.
It is more important to make a decision that will keep you safe than listening to whoever would say you should stay and endure because they aren't you. They don't know what you are facing, and funny enough, they are the ones who will blame you if it eventually leads to death, and by then, the one who has been inflicting pain on you would live on with their lives, possibly making a change with someone else while you are gone. Who is now at a loss?
When in a toxic relationship and knowing it wouldn't lead to any good in the end, just leave. In fact, when it's leading to the level where a partner is raising their hands on the other or that their peace of mind is affected gradually, then it calls for a rethink to leave such a relationship so it doesn't keep expanding to the extent it will be difficult to leave when tied down with different excuses in the name of love.
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