In the journey of finding true and genuine love, most of us have met lot of obstacles and challenges and when i am talking about obstacles, it means you either get dumped or heartbroken by someone who claims to love you endlessly....
We all have misunderstood the true and real meaning of love, love is not a feeling, we have all misunderstood that fact including me but i slowly and finally understood the true and genuine meaning of that so called "LOVE"...
In a short video i saw some days ago, it made so much things clearer to me on different levels and all is regarding love, in that short video, the man gave a quite explicit definition of "LOVE"...
He said,
"LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, LOVE IS WHAT YOU DO INSPITE OF WHAT YOU FEEL, HE FURTHER SAID LOVE IS FIGHTING FOR THE GOOD OF SOMEONE ELSE EVEN IF THEY NEVER SEE THE VALUE OR THE SACRIFICE THAT YOU DID TO GIVE LOVE TO THEM"....
After watching this short clip, i became a bit clarified of what love is and with this i realized love can't be bought with money..
Love bought with money isn't called love but a bargain or a business deal, over this couple of years i have met several girls and all at the same time i have been dumped by them because i am not capable enough to meet up to their needs and slowly i realized that their love for me wasn't love but business deal where they want PROFIT at all times..
When it comes to a true and genuine love, no amount of money will be enough to buy it as love doesn't come with a price tag, love is a matter related to the heart....
Let me share a short story of my own experience with love.....
LOVE DOESN'T COME WITH A PRICE TAG...
After lots of heartbreak and disappointments while trying to find a true love, i decided to shut my heart and chase money, because i know when there is money, love will follow, so i decide on chasing this money to confirm if its really going to work out...
I sat down to think about it for a while and realized that if i am loved because of my money then that isn't love but that person is profiting from my stupidity and i stopped chasing love but something changed later on that lead me to the love i have now..
I went out with my brother one day to work, he is a painter and i decided to go with him to work so that i can have some money on me and while painting the exterior part, i saw a beautiful fair girl, she was attractive and beautiful...
I told my brother about her and he told me to walk up to her and talk to her, i was feeling shy and scared she might not like me since i am a painter and i am not so well off, he said even without money, she might still love me depending on what i show her...
I walked up to her after a while, then i had clean up and changed into my pants and shirt and walked up to her, we talked for about 15 minutes and i ended up with her facebook id...
I was happy and told my brother, he said i should show her my real self, we chatted for weeks online and i was slowly and deeply falling for her, we became friends and then she invited me to whatsapp wher my brother told me she is slowly enjoying my company.
I started chatting with her and from weeks it turned into months and after i was feeling confident that i had sincere and genuine feelings towards her, i decided to shoot my shot and then i shot my shot the following day...
I called her up to tell her to meet me and after she came, we both went on a stroll and then i started talking to her about how we met and she was smiling and then i told her how i felt and then she said she needed some time to think about it...
Weeks later it was her birthday and she told me about it even when i already knew about it, i suddenly remember that i was dumped by my previous gf because i couldn't meet her need and to reduce my heartbroken state, i decided to end the love before she broke my heart again..
She called me and me thinking about something else, i didn't let her talk and then told her i didn't have any money to give her and that she shouldn't expect anything from me and before i knew it she dropped the call..
A day before her birthday, her friend came to me to express how disappointed she is in me and clarified some things to me that she called me to tell me its a YES from her but i broke her with my words...
I sat her friend down and then explained my previous relationship to her and she understood and told me to make amends that her friends love me...
I was happy and then i decided to call her up, she didn't pick up and wasn't replying my text, so i went to her house...
I called her and she came out with an attitude and i apologized to her sincerely and she eventually spoke to me and this were her words:
" i don't want your money, i didnt fall for you because you had money, i fell for you because you had the qualities my previous boyfriend didnt have and you understand me perfectly and they include patience, honesty, caring, communication skills, understanding, the most important thing is that you create time for me and never stop making me happy and that is all i need from you and not your money...
She said she knows i was a painter and she loves me for who i am but i disappointed her completely, i apologized to her and after sharing my experience with her, she calmed down and was now ready to listen to me, she smiled and i was also telling her how i missed chatting with her and asked of her reply that day..
She said it's a YES and that she isn't expecting a birthday gift from me but she rather want me to express myself to her on her birthday.
I suprised her with my confession in a frame and also her pictures in another frame, i spelt out my feelings to her and then we both went out and enjoyed that day...
In summary, she made me want to do more for her with that attitude, she has never asked me of a dime unlike my ex's, but she rather contributes positivity to my life that is what makes her special, countless times she has offered to assist me when i am broke but i didn't accept it because her motive is enough and also her love is enough..
In conclusion, true love doesn't come with money and it is all a matter of the heart, love isn't a means of extortion and it doesn't come with a price tag, she made me understood all this....