Life is beautiful when you have friends. Friends are like brothers from another mother. We can share our emotions, and feelings with them. So, having true friends in life is so important for us. But not all have the fortune to have good friends to make their lives colorful.
In my school life, I had a group of friends. We were together at that time. We have lots of memories with each other. We used to study, play and enjoy together. But now they changed. They are in a better position in society but I am a failure. I tried so hard and still trying to fulfill my dream. But yet my luck isn’t supporting me. I expected my friends to be on my side in bad times, but I was wrong. Now they try to ignore me all the time.
But I am not like them. I always try to help them. Whenever they need me, I always try to attend there. The last week one of my friends was ill. His condition was so bad and it was a heavy rainy day. His family was so tense about him. There was heavy rain and there was no transport on the road. At that time, I was there. After noticing this situation, I came to him and somehow managed a taxi. And at last, we were able to take him to the hospital in time. Now he is well enough. I did this from my common sense. It was my duty. I have a soft corner for them. But after getting well he forgot about me. This type of scenario happened in my life so many times. But when I need help, they try to ignore me. I have been jobless for a long time. Some of my friends have their own business. They have helped me but they haven’t. most of my friends have a good job and they have an opportunity to give a recommendation for me but they don’t do that. I requested some money from them to invest in my new business. They rejected it if even I promised to give back double.
When we used to meet, they enjoyed together but they don’t care about me. They try to always ignore me like they don’t know me. But we were good friends in school and college. I always used to help them with study and assignments. But they forgot everything.
So, now your question is why do I still help them?
I help them because they are my friend. Friendship is a broad thing. They can forget that we are friends but I will not. Because I hope they will understand the real meaning of friendship one day.
From my experience, I have suggestions for others to choose friends wisely:
1. You can trust them
A good close friend is honest and speaks from the heart with good intentions. They tell you what you need to hear in a respectful and loving manner, so it doesn’t feel hurtful. Because you know they have your best intentions at heart, you can be vulnerable, insecure, and weird with them.
2. “Dependability” is their middle name
There’s no time for fair-weather and flaky friends. A good friend respects this, trying their best to show up, keep promises, and do what they say they’ll do.
3. They’re loyal
While blind loyalty is never great, since it might cause you to overlook red flags and toxic traits, great friends are generally loyal to their people — unless these people aren’t great friends back.
A loyal friend sticks by you through your highs and lows, offering a helping hand or a listening ear whenever they can. They listen to your side of the story, give you the benefit of the doubt, and defend you when you deserve it.
4. They have empathy for others
Empathy involves understanding others’ emotions and experiences, and a great friend easily does this for you. If you’re distraught because you didn’t get a promotion, this friend does their best to put themselves in your shoes so they can offer you more thoughtful and meaningful support.
And if they know you really well, they might intuit your feelings before you express them, providing comfort and guidance before you even expected it.
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5. They’re good listeners
Excellent listening skills are one of the most important qualities of a good friend. Great listening allows your friend to understand how you are feeling, retain important information about you (like your favorite food or activity), and validate your emotions. They can only truly know who you are and offer excellent advice if they're actively listening.
6. Their confidence is contagious
A great friend has enough confidence for both of you, making you shine in social situations and offering you courage when you don't have it. They’re self-confident and think you should be, too, since they think you’re the best.
7. Spending time with them makes you feel good
Perhaps the most crucial trait, you should feel great spending time with this person. Social vampires and toxic relationships might exhaust you, but spending time with an excellent friend is something that should cheer you up and energize you. This is someone you’re comfortable seeing even on your most burned-out days because it’s not work.
8. They make you laugh
Laughter is life’s medicine, and great friends dole it out in tones. Humor reduces stress, brightens your mood, and leads to a greater sense of belonging — all things a great relationship should do. So, if your friend makes you laugh, know that this seemingly small trait might actually be increasing your well-being.
9. They're non-judgmental
While they might offer “real talk,” bringing you down to earth with critical insights, real friends never make you feel bad about yourself. They offer a safe space for you to work out issues, share insecurities, and discuss hard topics.
Great friends have your best intentions at heart, no matter what, and simply want you to be happy. And they also understand that your road to happiness is unique to you, so they’re ready to support you as you change throughout your life.
In the story, I want to say I am right on my way and will help them till my last because they are my friends and I know the meaning of friends. Let me know your opinion about that “What should I do now?”
Thanks for your valuable time!!!