When a friend or an acquaintance comes in the path of our goal, it is easy to let them go because they are not blood related but when family comes between it is the most hard phase to pass through. In life I have faced it so many times that I can share multiple experiences of mine, but today I will be sharing one of them which is a big turn of my life.
When I was in my teenage I had lost my father to liver failure. I have 3 siblings and including me it's 4, after my father's death my mother did not get married because she knew a step father would never accept us and at that time it was a common thing. Even if my mother would have stayed happy she didn't want us to suffer from the indifferences. My mother has been taking care of us for a long time, there has been days where we didn't have food at home but mother would always try her best to bring some food.
My mother has struggled a lot and I became the obliged son because I am the oldest son. I could not say "no" to my mother, because she raised us alone and the struggle days does not let me forget it. I have done everything according to her wishes even when I didn't feel like. Soon I got into politics when I was in college, my life was miserable nothing was going as I wanted it to be. I was not following the ideology of my father.
But at the age of 23 I fell in love with a girl who's name is Aysha. She had put me on a track, I stopped doing politics and was in search for a job. I wanted to work in the factory of Jute mill. I had a job and I wanted to marry Aysha but when I told my mother she disagreed because Aysha was from a low cast family. I tried to explain to mother how Aysha has changed me for better but mother didn't want to listen to me.
My love for Aysha grew day by day and I could not wait any longer as Aysha would be sent off with someone else to marry. My heart was pounding so fast I could not decide what should I do. Because my mother did raise me well and I can't go against her but my heart was not listening to me. Aysha is the person who has shown me the path for my goal and now I can't leave her like that. I decided to run off with Aysha and got married to her.
After marrying her I decided to come back home but my mother was so disappointed that she didn't accept us. I know she cares for me for that reason she couldn't accept someone who she thinks was less for me. But Aysha is the one who completes me. Even my younger brothers stopped talking with me as they disliked my wife. After that I was struggling because my salary was not enough to feed the two of us. My wife was struggling but she never complained what she did was only to motivate me. After few years of struggle I started getting promotions and our life became better my first daughter was born and it was the happiest day of my life. Then I started my own business and now my mother has accepted us.
I had to be separated from my family I had to do it because this is my life, I should be the one deciding. If I was doing something wrong then my family should be guiding me but they don't get to decide who will be my life partner, judging my partner without knowing. I feel getting separated from my family was the best decision, the person I love I can't let her get demeaned by others even if they are my blood related. If I have taken her as my wife then I should say take the responsibility.
The man I am today is only because of my wife, she has completed me and I feel no one else could have done that. Even if there's still ups and downs going in our life my wife is still the same as she was before. Even if it is about choosing partner I feel s person who is an adult has the right to choose anything for himself/herself because it's our own life and we should be the one deciding what we want the most. If my mother had supported me life could become easier as I was a struggler but I was left alone because I didn't listen to my mother.
I don't have any regrets for not listening to my mother, parents can't be right all of the time. There are sometimes where they can be wrong in judgement. If my mother had tried to know my wife personally then she could have taken a decision but without knowing Aysha judging her because of her family background and that is what I found totally unfair. I feel what I did was right because it's necessary to take these kind of steps even if your family is not willing to be on your side, do what you feel is right. It's been 27 years and I am happily married with Aysha and have two lovely daughters.
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