At one time or the other in our lives we come across scenes, Events or occurrences which may have inflicted some painful feelings in our inner self that we feel so much pain that we can't erase such Trauma in our minds. Unlike Injuries to the skin which may be painful initially and thereafter, some may fade away and then relief comes but then, this kind of pain doesn't work that way, it leaves an inner mark that cannot be erased so quickly.
At times, these pains are caused by our Loved ones, Family members or even our very close Friends and it is becomes unbearable to us as we continue looking at their face each day. As we look at them on a daily basis, it reminds us of the pain that they have caused for us and it really hurts if you have ever been in that situation. We may even feel like going right to their face and giving them a hard punch on the face. But would that Hard punch on face really make the Pain in our Hearts to go away? No is the answer.
We may feel like passing the pain that we feel right to the next person in our lives, be it a Friend or a Relative too. But would that also make the pain go away? To some extent YES! But then, it would only leave some feelings of guilt in our hearts and minds which we may never forgive ourselves of in the nearest future. You may also feel as though you wouldn't be held accountable for the sin you inflicted on the other person but then, a guilty conscience always has a troubled mind and with a troubled mind you will always feel accountable for that pain you caused. So it is not really advisable to inflict the pain in you to another person.
There are a lot of people too who feel as though it is natural to pass their Trauma to those around them maybe to make them be at ease with the much that they are going through within their inner self. Well, that's not the best of ways to go about the Pain you are housing within you. Think of it like you are carrying a Basin of Hot water with your bare hands, you are in pain already and all you want to do it to drop the basin, but then, if you are not careful, you may might pour the Hot water on a friend beside you on your quest to drop the Basin.
Similarly, that's the same way the pain circle goes, you are in pain because of your trauma just like carrying the basin with your bare hands, but if you pass the Trauma to those around you, you will be pouring the hot water on them thereby making them be in pain which is not what you intend to do. You intend you drop the Pain of the Trauma off but instead, you are inflicting much pains on your friends around.
Well, Pains are not a Forever is the deal affair, it can end of you are determined to end it. Only Time heals pain! If you give yourself Time and you work on things that would help you to move on and away from the things that make the pain come to mind, you will see how you will grow and become free form the bondage of the pain of trauma.