I can hardly remember if I have ever ghosted anybody. I like to believe that I always stick around. I am that guy who will hold on to a relationship even if there is nothing for me to gain. I always give more than I take. To ghost someone feels a little off to me; I choose my friends very carefully, and all my friends stick around. Yes, life has made it difficult for us to communicate with each other as we once did, but we are still close and always in each other’s business.
For one to decide consciously to stop talking to another without telling the other person the reason for their action, one will have to wonder if there was truly any friendship between them. A lot of people who will ghost another person who will only take without giving in a friendship.
If I have any issues with another person, I will bluntly tell them what they have done and tell them we will no longer be friends. The world itself is full of many unfortunate events; ghosting a person shouldn’t be one of them. I have had a lot of people in my life with whom we no longer talk today, but it was not as if I ghosted them; well, in any case, I was ghosted by them. My friend who was my course mate and roommate in the university left the country for a period of time, since his departure, I haven’t heard from him, in his case it might be one of this two reasons, either he has made it so big that he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me anymore, or that he is really struggling and he is hiding face. I may lose contact with some of my friends, but mostly we regain contact and still talk. I don’t see reasons why a person should ghost another, but rather we should try to be understanding with one another and try to help each other with our flaws.
Although there are people whose behaviour is beyond control and repair, we should still try our best to help them before we see ghosting as an option. I have these friends who are very selfish and pushy. What did I do with them? They are still people I talk with, the first will take money from you and will refuse to return it, but anytime he comes back for more, I will happily give him, so long as he needs the money. The other friend was my closest friend in secondary school; he would act like he was the wisest in the room, always trying to make me look down on myself. He is always annoying. What I will do is to keep my distance most days, letting him do his thing, but ghosting people has never been an option to me.
I believe we all need one another, like my friend, who was hated by many, including my other friends, but I needed to find a place to accommodate him.
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