Greetings!
Like I used to tell people whenever I had the opportunity to talk about human relationships, “no one is an island.” So, as a result of this, no man can live alone as we need relationships to live well.
In my own personal view, a relationship is not an option, it is a must and this is because of the importance of it to every human.
Like I wrote in one of my write ups recently, I almost got a carry over and extra year when I was in university due to my inability to relate well with my fellow course mates. If not for one of them that would not let me have my way of living a lonely life, I would have lost it and had carried it over.
Having said this, I would like to respond to the topic of the Hive Learners community which is all about friendship.
Like I said earlier, friendship is good as it gives us avenues to relate with others and also has people to support us whenever we are in need of help.
Friendship is the main thing that has really brought someone like me to this current state of mine.
Sincerely speaking, I can boldly say that I have really enjoyed the benefits of friendship as I have been helped and been a beneficiary of what friendship can offer and I'm a proud testament of what friendship is all about.
But even at that, there's another aspect of friendship which at times negates the principle of friendship. That other side is what I have also experienced in my relationships with people, which means we have both the bad and the good sides of relationships.
Although, I have told us how far good friendship has brought me, but this time around I would be talking about how friendship had brought me to my knees.
Some time ago, I and a friend, named Ade came together to partner in a business, a pig farming business, but lo and behold, this friend of mine betrayed the trust I reposed in him and sold all the pigs we had bought together without my consent and after selling the pigs, he disappeared into the thin air without me seeing him again, it's just of recent that I was told he had traveled abroad and I'm very sure that he used the proceeds from the pig sales to orchestrated his move abroad.
When I heard this, I felt betrayed and I was angry with myself as to why I was so foolish to the extent that I allowed him to dupe me. This incident almost cost me my life as I was frustrated and depressed, but with the help of some other friends, I was able to be lifted up again and now I'm fine.
So, since then, I have learned that friendship is like a two edged sword with both the good and the bad sides.
Another thing is that no one or friend can make us happy, although they may try their best to do so, but it wouldn't last and this is because of the envy and jealousy that used to come with friendship.
So, one thing that I have realized so far is self love. Self love doesn't mean you shouldn't relate with others, but even when relating with them, you must love yourself and also make yourself happy as your happiness is within you and not from others. So, you are the one that can make yourself happy or otherwise.
In conclusion, we must all know that happiness is free, but maybe costly if we want it from others and not from ourselves. So, friendship cannot in any way guarantee happiness.
This is my entry to week 187, edition 01 of the weekly Featured in the Hive Learners community.
Thanks for reading.
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