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If there's anything to be taught and learnt and even included in the school curriculum, that thing should be parenting. This is actually because of no other reason, but for the arduous task associated with it. But one thing I know is that, even if learnt in the educational institute, parenting would still not be as simple as ABC.
Parenting which has to do with the process of raising and caring for a child right from birth to adulthood with the series of provisions which includes, emotional provisions, cognitive provisions, physical provisions, social provisions etc has to do with a lot of discipline and openness. So, parenting it's a two way thing which should be balance in order to get the desired result at the end.
Now, going by the topic of the prompt, one thing I would like to say is that balancing is the core value of parenting what this means is that, at one time you're a overprotective as a parent and at the other time, you as a parent or as parents give you child or children a breathing space to take decisions on their own, but one thing is that even when giving them the space to take a decision on their own, parents must be there to monitor their activities and correct them where necessary. Though, this must not means we should all over them when taking such a decision, but maybe secretly, we can monitor them and when things are not going as planned by them, we can now come in the open to put them through just because of the experiences we have gathered as parents over time.
So, also, being over protective as a parent is not a bad thing and this is because, it's good for a parents to always protective their interest over their children. Atimes, the child's interest may not be the best for such a child and allowing such a child to take the path of his or her interest may simply leads to his or her destruction. Though, as parents, we must not always infringe on the right of our children, but being overprotective atimes saves a child from danger. One thing that's very sure is that if parents fail in their duty of protecting their wards, the blame of the child's misdeed will still come or bounce back on them. Like I said earlier, being overprotective is not bad, but it just have to be with caution.
In my lifetime, I have seen an overprotective children that went wayward at the end and this is because most of them were of the thought that they were in bondage and at the end, when they were of the opinion that they have been freed from such bondage, they misused the said freedom and toll the path of destruction which later bounced back on their parents. Also, I have seen children that were free to take action and mingle with other children and were not over protected by their parents that were doing well and making exploit and now the glory were also given to the parents for a job weldone. It happens, its just that it depends on kind of discipline being inculcated in the children by the parents. Atimes, children need to be chastised and the other time, they need to be advised and even pampered. All we need as parents is wisdom and discretion.
But one other thing is that, being overprotective or not have to do with time and season. One thing I have learnt from experience and from my parents as well is that, both my mum and dad know when to be overprotective and when not. In those days when I was still young or small as the case maybe, my parents would not leave me to take any decision of my choice. Atimes they chastised me for taking the wrong decision. Then I thought they were too overprotective or harsh on me which was normal to be thought of. But it got to a time, most especially after my secondary that I was a little bit freed from their overprotectiveness. Then, they don't chastise me as before, but only advice and put me through on how to live my life. So, they were able to struck the balance and to be sincere, I'm really enjoying the kind of life I'm leaving and also making them proud. Then, they were secretly monitoring my activities, but would only show up and talk whenever I got it wrong. They were able to struck the balance and put me through. Thanks to them.
So, striking a balance is the real deal when it comes to parenting. Though it's not an easy task as many view it, but with wisdom, parenting can be made easy , but I would tell us that, parenting is an Arduous task.
This is my entry to the week 156, Edition 01 of the weekly Featured contest in the Hive Learners community.
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