I stumbled on this prompt lately and it down on me to share my experience with a friend, I came across someone who from a stranger ended up becoming my closest friend, you will always see her having a strange look, she hardly smile or interact with people most especially men.
If you make any effort to say Hi" she will get tense and defensive you will pressume that there is something more deeper than her reaction.
I do not know much as for that period but along the line I quickly realize she was in hurt, one time we were having a conversation suddenly she was broken and I thought of asking her“ what's wrong with you?
She broke the initial silent and open up that she happened to be a one time raped victim by someone very close and trusted person when she was growing up and she's much younger since that experience then it left her with such a fearful thought of depression and heavy scar and therefore she cave a wall around her which inhence difficulty in trusting people around her.
She try getting into several relationships but they all failed without any serious cause as soon as the relationship started.
I encourage her as much as I could and i kept watching steady and closely for her to overcome that trauma and for her to heal complete and find peace.
Well, she have a little knowledge about God but Doesn't have such a vibrant relationship with him, so I had to introduce the loving father" who will not cast her away' with time she found her feet back on deck, it helps her to rebuild her relationship with God and he has help her thus far, and her track records of yesterday predicament is now a story for her to encourage others today.
A message to someone, please do not hinder yourself from healing from whatsoever must have happened to you.
When you come across some people pouring usual aggression, perhaps you may think they're having a hot temperament or a certain kind of anger, it might not occur because the are totally bad or are having bad character, it could be that the are passing through there past experience, trauma and depression, therefore, the need a quiet and safe place so the can be loved correctly.
If you neglect yourself from healing in completeness
you will stumbled on hurting those people around you & even the one's you loved most.
Atimes it is hard for you to detect who is really genuine and who is worthy your attention and investing time and if you behold past trauma, it can cause you alot to the point of making you to end up missing great and vibrant relationships due to your past experience
sometimes the memory of your ugly childhood thought and hard experience might flash through your mind
Do not let that to block the beautiful future the lord has built out just for you.
If you are heart broken and going into a new relationship after your previous heart break you it won't make you to heal quickly.
If you are still hurt and not completely healed do not rush to start another relationship.
What you required now is not another new relationship to cover that empty space.
buy yourself more time.
buy yourself much space.
Cry and pour your heart out.
Pray about it and let go.
Allow your self to receive peace and be calm .
An injury that does not receive medication will remain void and will not heal fast
Additionally, the first step to take when you are broken and feeling hurt, perhaps feeling downcasted is to seek God in prayers, God is the healer and our prayers to God works.
The Holy Spirit gives guidance through every healing process if you grant him access to your life.
There is a hand that heals every manner of pain and sorrow, that is Gods love, The his love is near to them that are down and heart broken at heart; and will deliver such a person when he or she draws closer...
lastly; learn to hear people side of the story and do not be quick to judge anyone.