Many people are raised with the belief that "blood is thicker than water", which creates feelings of guilt and shame when considering cutting ties with a family member. Parting away from a family member is not easy, and it often leads to a complex and painful grieving process. This is because family relationships are deeply woven into our identity and personal history, and separating from them goes against strong societal and cultural expectations.
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I have some personal experience, when there was estranged relation with one of my family member. Though it was due to some mis communication and mis understanding. We completelly cut out of any contacts. We do cross path many times, but the estranged relation never let us to talk. But as said the blood is more thicker, when I was in some problem, I got the much needed help from the one I never expected. At the end, it is the family member that remain close to the heart with a strong bond. I knew nobody could help me except that person. Finding it as an oppurtunity, I quickly approached to get everything sorted. I do not want to create any more confusion in our relation. It is important to talk and share and sort everything. A Family relationships are complex, combining love and pain. The decision to part ways, even from a toxic person, can bring about a mix of feelings, including grief for the relationship we hoped for. In my case it never easy for me to part away. I alwsys look out to sort the issue. Even in my case, I made multiple attempt to sort the issue, but the person completelly ignored me.
Sometimes, 'Do not disturb' is what we need to wear on our heart
It get very important to cope with a difficult family member without cutting ties. Cutting someone off completely is a last resort. Other options can help us navigate a challenging family relationship. Whenever there is disconnect, I do try certain things that may comes handy in long run. Clearly stating what behavior is and isn't acceptable to me. If a family member disrespects the boundaries, I calmly prefer to end the conversation or interaction. Limit the time we spend with the person and reducing the frequency and depth of our communication may make them to feel.the wrong done. It is noteworthy, that we can only manage our own actions and emotions, not the other person's. By accepting that we can noy change them, we free ourself from trying to fix them.
Family is often where individuals first learn about connection, developing a sense of identity and security within the family unit. Family often forms a crucial part of a person's identity, and cutting ties can disrupt a sense of belonging and self, leading to anxiety and isolation. Many people experience strong feelings of guilt, feeling like they are a "bad" person for terminating a family relationship, especially since they are conditioned to believe this is morally wrong. I personally believe that family ties are unbreakable and that cutting someone off is inherently wrong or a betrayal of familial duty. So sticking with them and accepting them as they are is more sensible than showing the adverse side effects.
In good faith - Peace!!
