There was time when parents relied on physical discipline because it was a deeply rooted cultural norm, a common outlet for stress, and a method historically believed to successfully enforce immediate obedience. Many also believed it was the most efficient way to teach the difference between right and wrong. I believe most of us in the same the age group were brought up like that. But things have changed drastically lately. The new generation does not like to to be learned in hard way. It was yesterday only when my uncle was angry with his grandson, but he show his anger and get aggressive the kids mother intervene on time to avoid the situation getting worse. My uncle who is good above 70 years of age is firm believer of teaching discipline through old school of physical spanking. But the modern parents have emotionally evolved and does not see it as a good way to teach discipline.
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In many older cultures, it was widely believed that a child’s will needed to be "broken" to ensure obedience and moral compliance. Parents simply raised children the same way they were raised. Physical discipline was passed down from generation to generation because it was widely accepted as the standard method of correction rather than seen as abuse. Child psychology and parenting education have evolved significantly since then. Parents are more emotionally attached to their kids These days parents focus heavily on emotional regulation and logical consequences rather than physical force. Over the years, it has been observed that, that hitting can actually increase aggressive behavior in the long term and hinder a child's ability to develop a healthy, trusting relationship with their parents.
Discipline should be rooted in clarity, not fear.
Researching on various aggressive childs have indicated the negative behavior of spanking. While spanking may stop a behavior in the immediate moment out of fear, research shows it does not teach children "why" a behavior is wrong or what they should do instead. It is not a fruitful means of imparting lesson to kids. It is important to make kids aware about the right and wrong, but spanking never allows them to learn their mistake. It does not lead to long term behavioral changes and often increases the very behaviors it aims to stop, such as aggression and defiance. Instead of teaching long-term self control, spanking often teaches children to fear their parents, lie to avoid getting caught, and use violence to solve conflicts. I remember being in one of the state , where for a long time I avoided to get closer to my parents. Spanking usually harm the emotional connection between parent and child, replacing trust and open communication with fear and resentment.
Taking a breath and teaching them with patience today.
Today's parents focus on guiding children to understand their emotions rather than acting out of frustration or momentary anger.
In good faith - Peace!!